Blunt question about SEX...

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Permalink Reply by Carl Taylor on March 16, 2011 at 9:09am

Kayla, I agree with several previous answers, especially the first one by "LT". We are really talking about obediance here and in many other areas of our lives. I certainly understand your desire to want to have sex. God created us as sexual beings and gave us the desires we have for each other. The problem is, we twist the purpose and the proper way in which we are to enjoy sex. I think the real question is not "will God punish me" but "am I will to rob myself of all that God has for me and His blessings on my life and marriage"? So many times we have the false thoughts that God is sitting up there waiting on us to mess up so He can throw lightening bolts at us and punish us for our mistakes and disobediance. Truth is, our disobediance just robs us of His blessings. The grace He gave us in Christ, covers the punishment but don't you want to be "rewarded" not just "not punished".

I'll quickly share my own story, I lived with a woman for 2 years and we got engaged to be married. I accepted Christ as my savior and decided I wanted God to bless our marriage. I knew living together was wrong and so was the sex we were having. We decided to ask God to forgive us of those things and we vowed to make a change. We lived apart for one year without sex before we acctually walked down the isle. I believe God has honored our obediance and sacrifice.

As I have studied the Word of God regarding "God's blessings", I find that most of the time His blessings come as a direct link to the obediance of His children. Just a thought as you look for a husband. Be blessed and stand fast in the strength of Christ.

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Permalink Reply by Kayla on March 16, 2011 at 2:22pm

Thank you and I'm glad things worked out for you!

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Permalink Reply by Theophane on March 23, 2011 at 3:22pm

God bless you, Kayla!

 

I find myself in quite a similar predicament, except I am a Christian man who does not want to compromise his principles. But I am not your average man. I have Asperger Syndrome. I'm on disability support (ODSP). I've been unemployed for years now and I fear I may be unemployable because of my mental health issues. Materially and financially, I have nothing to offer a woman. I have no car, no job, no real prospects. But I really want someone to share my life with.  I want someone to grow old with. I have so much love to give and life can get pretty lonely sometimes, for a 32 year-old bachelor. Whenever the thought of going to a prostitute enters my mind, I shrink from it in disgust. The thought of casual sex with someone from Craigslist is equally repugnant to my high-minded Spirit-led self. 

 

I do not consider myself Conservative (or Liberal, FTM) but I do have principles.  

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Permalink Reply by Kayla on March 23, 2011 at 4:34pm

I understand...I wish you the best of luck with everything! That must be rough :-/ Have you thought of volunteering somewhere?

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Permalink Reply by Theophane on March 23, 2011 at 5:04pm

 

Correction: I do have prospects.

 

I have been called to serve my church community.

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Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on March 25, 2011 at 5:33pm

Hi Kayla,

             This is a good question.''BUT''

When we were in the world we had no rules,thats why we love it so much , if we come to know GOD and know his ways then we have to do them.

I lost my husband in 2009 june) and i know if i had not found JESUS i would have had a lot of sex already, ''BUT'' because i understand the fear and love of GOD i will not let the devil carry my name to GOD about sex.I would love to get married again but if he wants to test drive i am going to run because i know GOD wont give me anything that i wont like i trust GOD and as belivers we must trust him.

eg)what if we try and dont like it what then? are we going to try try try then when the right one comes along

and he dont want to try we will miss out on what GOD has for us.

We cant do what the world do and called ourself chiristian thats why we are different because we do what GOD says, and remember when we have sex we becomes one with that person no matter who, we are joined, wait on the LORD , i never know i could do without sex,but because i love GOD i take my mind off it and belive me i dont even feel for it we have to keep our body holy and clean for JESUS because if its not clean he's not going to stay, and sex is only for a while and then what, read ROMANS1-21-32.

Its not wort it love GOD and he make everything good i know.LUV U

 

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Permalink Reply by Prophet on March 30, 2011 at 5:24am

The Problem with Sex before marriage is that, when one is intimate with another person there are soul ties formed. In other words the Bible says that when two are joined together in intimacy they become one flesh, so how many soul ties do you have,  if one is intimate with Jack (for instance), and who has Jack been initmate with, and who have those people been intimate with do you get this? You then have soul ties with all of these people and this can open the door for demonic attack and other awful consequences it is not just about the physical consequences and safe sex, it is about the whole spiritual connection and influence.

 

There is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage. The Bible undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but is sex before marriage considered sexually immoral? According to 1 Corinthians 7:2, “yes” is the clear answer: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the “cure” for sexual immorality. First Corinthians 7:2 is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside of marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God.

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Permalink Reply by RoyW on March 30, 2011 at 5:28am

Amen, very good.

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Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on March 30, 2011 at 5:30am

WELL SAID!

NO ONE HAVE TO SAY ANYTHING MORE.

 

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Permalink Reply by Theophane on March 30, 2011 at 2:42pm

My life situation is such that I may never be married. So does that mean I'm doomed to a life of celibacy? I hope not. I want a helpmate. I want somone to grow old with.

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Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on March 30, 2011 at 4:19pm

Hello Theophane,

                           Please never talk such foolishness about yourself.

Your mouth is what makes your future, what ever you say the LORD will make it happen.

Always talk good about yourself no matter the situation every adam have a eve out there.

please read my blogs it will show you the importance of words,please please talk good words over yourself because if you dont do it who is going to.

                                                                                 try it for 7 days and see.LUV U

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Permalink Reply by Sarah-ann on May 17, 2011 at 9:00pm

Hi, I want to know something. I am married and my husband is also saved. Is having sex too much a sin, where you give yourself to your husband. is it lust?, when you don't feel like it and forces you?. I am very shy about talking about this but it seems this topic that people don't really discuss. I cant ask my pastor or my sisters. i feel shy about it.

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