Blunt question about SEX...

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Permalink Reply by Kayla on May 18, 2011 at 7:15pm

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Permalink Reply by Sarah-ann on June 9, 2011 at 6:14pm

well thanks, one more thing. I know this may sound ackward. sometimes i dont want to do it in the day ,since our kids are in the living room. since we can sometimes hear noises still throught the wall.===(is this wrong)

 i ask my husband to either wait in the night when kids are sleeping or out of the house. Is that the right thing to do?.

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Permalink Reply by Prophet on June 9, 2011 at 11:29pm

! Corinthiand 7, 2-9 gives a very clear guideline of what the sexual relationship should be between husband and wife, the Amplified Bible makes the language very easy to understand and there are no gaps so that this passage can be interpreted in any way other than it should be. BOTH should agree on things and BOTH should respect the reservations of the other partner. I agree that one should not be intimate in situations where other people can hear you and neither should this become a contention between man and woman 

 

1 Corinthians 7

¹NOW AS to the matters of which you wrote me. It is well [and by that I mean advantageous, expedient, profitable, and wholesome] for a man not to touch a woman [to cohabit with her] but to remain unmarried.

    ²But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband.

    ³The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband.

    ⁴For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights].

    ⁵Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.^(A)

    ⁶But I am saying this more as a matter of permission and concession, not as a command or regulation.

    ⁷I wish that all men were like I myself am [in this matter of self-control]. But each has his own special gift from God, one of this kind and one of another.

    ⁸But to the unmarried people and to the widows, I declare that it is well (good, advantageous, expedient, and wholesome) for them to remain [single] even as I do.

    ⁹But if they have not self-control (restraint of their passions), they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame [with passion and tortured continually with ungratified desire].

 

I have been divorced for 35 years and the Lord has given me grace to live without a physical relationship with anyoone so I channel those energies into prayer and working in my Minjistry. Be Blessed and do not be afraid to ask questions especially from the "older" christians they will always be helpful

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Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on May 18, 2011 at 8:35am

Sarah -

 

Having lots of sex (intimacy) with your hubby is not wrong at all, it's not a sin or lust. God must be first in your life, but your hubby should be second on the list. When one of you do not feel like having intimacy and the other one pushes their desires on the spouse, is not always a bad thing. However you must define what you mean by: "forces you". If the husband or wife is very persistent, that is not always the wises thing to do, but not always a bad thing. So what do you mean by “he forces you” and please be prudent with your response. We have very young members in this community. If you need to speak with Godly woman about this sister, there are faithful servants of our Lord in this community. Just let us know you would like to have some of them approach you through private mail and they will reach out to you.

 

There is also a "For women only" Group: http://www.allaboutgod.net/group/forwomenonly where i am sure you can speak with much more freedom about the difficult issues of marriage.  

 

We are here for you beloved and we do not shy away from this topic and thank you for blessing us with the ability to speak life and truth into your life.

 

Love and blessings to you and your home.

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Permalink Reply by Prophet on May 19, 2011 at 1:45am

This past sunday our pstor Prerached on the 7th commandment, Tou shalt not commit adultery. (he is doing a series on the commandments) and he was very frank and open about this subject, but the core root of the sermon were these things;

1. NO sex outside of marriage... not even petting..or any such innappropriate behaviour

2. Sex is a bond between two people which is a sacred covenant made with God when you marry.

3. Pornography and sex toys do not have a place either in this relationship as this perverts what the Lord has given, when one uses these things we are saying to God, What you gave us is not good enough, besides the fact that this is an open door for satan to enter the relationship.

 

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