What is the purpose of God in Divorce ?

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Permalink Reply by grace09 on October 4, 2009 at 12:30am

Honestly, my heart is filled w deep anger/resentment towards my ex. He has not really sincere apologise for his wrong. I am too weak to pray for him or i feel he dun deserve my prayer esp i m not the one who hurt me. mental struggle. I just do not know why cos some married woman , he rather risk the marrige lost and hurting me.

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Permalink Reply by Leonard T on October 4, 2009 at 5:29pm

Grace09,

As long as you refuse to forgive him before Father God you will remain in a prison built on anger and confusion, a prison in which you hold the key. The key is the "key of forgiveness.". If he has wronged you have the freedom to forgive the debt before Father God. It frees him, but more importantly it will free you. If you release it before the Father, then if he ever asks you for forgiveness face-to-face you will be able to extend that forgiveness.

Lord Bless,
LT

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Permalink Reply by grace09 on October 5, 2009 at 10:38am

Dear Therse :
THanks for your assurance that God loves me, In fact, when these things happen, i ever struggle whether God loves me...Is so heart warming to know that there is "stranger" out there who is kind hearted enough to bless me and keep me in prayer. If i get a job, i will share my joy with you!

I hope i can move on with God's strength, sometimes is like taking a few steps forward, and than fall backward that kind...

Recently read a book call "When your marriage dies" by PETHERBRIDGE. IT has bless me in a special way.

My friend told me divorce is not a dead end, it could means a new begining...hope so..

Therese, u take care and i wish you well :) blessings unto u

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Permalink Reply by grace09 on October 5, 2009 at 10:35am

Hi,

At this stage, i cant release blessing for my ex cos i m still angry..But i am learning to pray to God. By mediating on Philip 3 :13-14 helps me, But one thing i do forget what is behind, i strain forward to win the prize that christ has called me heavenward in christ jesus.

U shared that you have this questions too ? u also in divorce ? can share ? u take care & know that u are not alone. Recently ,i joined a divorce support group and found out that there are some ladies who went thru more tough times than me and bad betrayal experience....

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Permalink Reply by Bishop Dr. Nicholas C. Zanni on October 5, 2009 at 6:49am

Well, God is showing you that perfection is not what makes a marriage real but acceptance of each other. Lies and doing things behind your back are just weaknesses that needed to be addressed and help your spouse to have more confidence in yoou and stop being afraid of you.

The fact that you do not mention unfaithfulness (extra marital affair) could mean that he is just secretive about things. That would mean that he was either afraid or is insecure about your reactions to things he does. Perfectionists can be very judgemental and insesitive to spouse's gestures and that can lead to the other hiding certaing things. If you love him, then help him to become a better person. I have been married for 23 years and I know I know one thing, I am still knowing and discovering my wife and must celebrate both her strength and weakness.

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Permalink Reply by grace09 on October 5, 2009 at 9:31am

Thanks for your replies. I did not put everything in my discussion. Yes, i divorce him not only cos lies, but more of the discovery of his affair with his colleague, who is married and has 2 kids. I know that a marriage that has no trust/committment is hard to go on, That is why i decide to divorce.

Depsite my anger of betrayal, I know that God is watching me from above and guiding my every step, i chose to believe that God knows what is best for me.

Thanks for your replies.

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Permalink Reply by grace09 on October 5, 2009 at 10:32am

Dear Dr Nic :
I forget to add one point in my earlier replies, I m surprised by your feedback regarding my spouse being afraid of me that is why he chose to be secretive. With regards to the latter , i do not know..I do have some friends where their hubby also have affairs and lied to them that they ve work to do. I guess being afraid and intentionally deceive the spouse for own gain are 2 different things. Maybe u can share more abt this "being afraid" cos i want to know more. THanks alot. God Bless.

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Permalink Reply by prince mupenzi on November 5, 2009 at 12:11am

DEAR SISTER why do u divorce your husband is he really a christian or not , one thing i know is u need to pray for him coz what GOD has joined no one can separate , have consulted ur poster

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