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Permalink Reply by mirandaa on October 27, 2010 at 4:23pm

thanks that helped alot

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Permalink Reply by mirandaa on October 27, 2010 at 4:23pm

thaks that really helped

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Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on October 27, 2010 at 3:06pm

Hey girl -

It is always very good to see you sharing here :)

A couple of questions before I can answer you.

Is the person someone you can establish a friendship relationship with?

Why do you want to spread the word through a message with this person? It is always better when possible to do as Paul:

To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God's law but am under Christ's law), so as to win those not having the law. 22 To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some. 23 I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings. 1 Corinthians 9:21-23

What Paul is saying is - find common ground and go from there according to how the Spirit leads you and pray for favor and for God to work in her heart.

If possible beloved became a friend to them, it sounds like they need one and as you exchange, share what God has done in your life and what He is doing and the dreams He is giving you.

24 So for the second time they called the man who had been blind and said to him, “Give glory to God. We know that this man is a sinner.” 25 He answered, “Whether he is a sinner I do not know. One thing I do know, that though I was blind, now I see.”John 9

Here was a man with virtually ZERO information or understanding. He only knew the WHO and the WHAT in connection with what had just happened to him! But there was one thing that he could not deny and no one could argue, he had experienced the touch of God upon his life. Do like the blind man brat hahaha

Love you super chick.

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Permalink Reply by mirandaa on October 27, 2010 at 4:21pm

David to answer your questions: yes it is, she is very down to earth and has been through the same struggles that i have.
and because i just believe that if i have to keep on keeping on then she has to too.
and i really think that whats she is going through is way out of my hands and others, and i strongly hope that she will turn to god as her comfort and strong hold.
how ever i really want to embrace her with the truth about Jesus Christ, but i feel that im in no opsition of doing this, because of my own struggles that have been going on...
so if i where to help her, i think in my opinion i'd be a hypocrite.

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Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on October 28, 2010 at 8:37pm

Mirandaa,

>>David to answer your questions: yes it is, she is very down to earth and has been through the same struggles that I have.

Then you are in the perfect place Chilli Willy to exercise 2 Cor. 1 The God of All Comfort
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 5 For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.

Comfort her with the comfort you have received from God girly. :)

This is our strongest witness, but you said:

>> but I feel that im in no position of doing this, because of my own struggles that have been going on...

If we wait to be almost perfect in our walk (positionally we are perfect) to witness about Christ we never will. Through Christ and God's empowering we can live beautiful lives for Christ where we are not in any habitual sin. We will still sin, but far and between. When we abide in Christ we are free. When I have walked very poorly and then a door opens up for me to testify about the Lord to someone that has seen me give a bad testimony, I am real with them and tell them, look you have seen David abiding in Christ and David walking in sin and I know how that discredits my testimony, but God pull me through. He kept me and restored me. He never left me nor foresook me and you can tell the difference in my walk when I am abiding in Christ than when I am not, so God turns my bad testimony to work for His glory chica.

You love God and your experiences with God are real. Since I met you the Spirit has bore witness of your sprit in my heart. Do as the Lord Leads youngster and love your neighbor.

Blessings beloved.

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Permalink Reply by mirandaa on November 2, 2010 at 10:30am

David, i do understand what you have to say, but i feel that. from me helping her i will take on her struggles as my own, and not turn to god for the help, i know this is no excuse but it is something that i have been lacking in. i know that only god can set the captives free, but in turn, i believe that the holy spirit will guide and directe the path of holiness... i guess i just need to set my eyes on jesus, and never look away because, i night just loose the light..
thanks for the incouragement.

mirandaa

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Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on November 3, 2010 at 4:02am

Mira,

It is excellent that you recognize that ministry requires balance and it has its challenges. There are many things ministers, which you are one beloved, need to learn to edify others and care for them deeply without letting their struggles effect their own walk in a negative way. The Lord tells us to "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn". Romans 12:15 But to keep her issues from becoming yours in a negative way you must keep eating and keep your tank full beloved. You must have the Joy of the Lord and the peace that goes beyond human understanding, so you do not grow weary of doing right and are able to stand against the enemy's attack.

>>I guess I just need to set my eyes on Jesus, and never look away because, I night just loose the light..

Beloved you have been bought not with silver or gold, but with the blood of Christ. Our salvation is not a passive one. God has done everything to save you and keep you, but our call to abide in Him is extremely real. Our ability to enjoy the more abundant life is extremely connected with our abiding in Christ. Study, fellowship and pray. But know one thing you will never lose the light. Impossible, so am I telling you to sit back and relax wild you sip on some cold ice tea? Naw, may it never be. You are a child of God and nothing can change that. Even if you try walking away and spend years trying to run from Him, His love and correction will bring you back to Him, because the true living Lord is your father. He loves you and He is faithful. Do abide in Him and enjoy the beauty of being His.

You are the daughter of the King. Don't you ever forget it. Nothing can change that, He chose you before the foundations of the world, He was already loving you. Yes you are special, but not so you can get puffed up, but so you can fall on your face and bring Him glory.

Get busy studying the word and getting to know - who your Lord is and who you are in Him and because of Him.

Blessing girly. :)

Micah 7:18-19 (New International Version © 2010)

18 Who is a God like you,
who pardons sin and forgives the transgression
of the remnant of his inheritance?
You do not stay angry forever
but delight to show mercy.
19 You will again have compassion on us;
you will tread our sins underfoot
and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.

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Permalink Reply by Richard L. Broch, Sr. on October 28, 2010 at 4:21pm

Dearest Mirandaa,
If you will, go with me to the scene at Golgatha. Two criminals were being crucified for their crimes. Jesus was being crucified to pay the ransom price for the sin-nature of the world. Most of the crowd were mocking and reviling Jesus, including both criminals (Matthew 27:41).

But wait. After a time, one of the criminals is having a change of mind. He is rebuking his partner and declaring Jesus to be innocent.
Please check Luke, chapter 23. Now this man is asking Jesus to take him into the Kingdom of Heaven with Him. What a complete change of heart! The other man did not change his heart and died an unbeliever.

Maybe Jesus was praying for this man. Or maybe one or more of His disciples in the crowd were praying. At any rate, there is no doubt that the Holy Spirit touched this guy in a special way for him to admit (confess) his eternal error as the Spirit made him realize Who Jesus really was. This all happened a short time before the criminal died. He was at wits end.

Now, Mirandaa, maybe you`re near towel`s end. Pray unto Almighty God through Jesus Christ for wisdom and direction to lead and guide this individual to an experience with the Holy Spirit. The Spirit`s responsibility is to convict (convince) this individual that their way of life up to this point is wrong, and a complete positive change in living is about to take place.

Maybe you can set this up by admitting your past mistakes to God, in the presence of your individual. This should remove any charge of hypocrisy. This individual must realize the error of their way. The Holy Spirit will accomplish this realization and point the way to Christ.

All of this is the will of God (1 Timothy 2:3-4,"For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior; Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.")

I will also be praying along with your good friends who have already responded to your plea.

Grace and Peace.

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