My problems with my husband of 38 years

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Permalink Reply by Phabs on February 15, 2008 at 7:47am

Hi Lillie
I'm not married and I still have the fairy tale happily ever after idea of marriage, so i'm no help in terms of advice but i'll keep you in my prayers, may God bless and heal you
and welcome to TheNet

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Permalink Reply by Gertrude Lulabelle Liverpoor on February 15, 2008 at 10:50am

Thank you for the reply. You can still have the fairy tale marriage that you are dreaming of. God has a plan for your life just as he has for me. Thank you for your prayer. I am getting stronger every day.

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Permalink Reply by Misty on February 15, 2008 at 1:31pm

Hi Lillie
I am praying for you and your husband. I have experienced infidelity in my own marriage and am still dealing with anger and trust issues with my husband. We are still together and it has been 2 years since he cheated (also a woman at work), but I still sometimes have get on my knees and let God remind me that he loves me and will give me peace.
I think that satan knows where our husbands weaknesses lie and sad to say it but usually it is in this area, the bedroom. He will strike when our marraiges are at a weak point, an all time low, he will use these women who have no respect for themselves or the wives in the situation. The particular woman that my husband was with was not only not a believer but was into the occult. I firmly believe that had my husband not been a Christian that she would have tried to get him involved as well.
Anyway, all that to say this, I suggest that you continue to pray that the Lord strengthen your husband's relationship with him and with you and give him a desire to make the right choice, which is of course to be with his wife. In the meantime, always remember that you are not alone, you are married now and forevermore to Jesus! He will never leave you nor forsake you, I hope you can take comfort in his words and pray that you find peace in the midst of this storm!
Love in Christ
Misty

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Permalink Reply by Gertrude Lulabelle Liverpoor on February 15, 2008 at 5:05pm

Dear Misty,

Thanks so much for taking the time to write me and for your prayers. My husband has been with this woman for 9 months and you are right that she has no respect for herself to get involved with a married man. I have talked to my husband until I am "blue in the face" and he refuses to listen. He says he is happy where he is now. I am now leaving him in God's hands and I will continue to pray for him. He is not a practicing Christian even though he was raised in the church. He hasn't been in a church in years. I am praying for his salvation because that is the only way that Satan will take his release him. I get strength from the Lord everyday. That is why I am just taking it a day at a time. It's good to hear from someone who has been where I am now. It makes me not give up hope. I keep saying that this is going to be over with and I will have a testimony to declare God's goodness and I still believe it.

God bless you and your family,


Lillie

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Permalink Reply by Gertrude Lulabelle Liverpoor on February 19, 2008 at 10:09am

I have faith in God that he can work out all things. I am in a difficult situation right now and it is painful but I believe in God and I trust him. I will pray for you that God will strengthen you and give you the healing that you so desperately need.

Prayerfully,


Lillie

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Permalink Reply by Rori on February 15, 2008 at 8:41pm

HI Lillie Walls
Thank you so much for sharing...I hold tight to Foot Prints in the Sand and the Serenity Prayer.
I so understand your pain, and struggle daily myself with a husband who will not return to the marriage...I pray to God ALWAYS and leave it to Him. I can do nothing.,..Iam so weak, I cry alot and pray that God keeps me moving forward. I have no words of wisdom because I am so lost in my own darkness right now but I will keep my faith that God has a wonderful plan for me. God bless you dear. I am so glad God brought you "into The Net" with us. It is the best place on earth (outside of my Church family) that I have ever found.
Your sister in God's Love,
Rori

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Permalink Reply by Heatley on February 19, 2008 at 3:15am

Hi Lillie and Rory, I'm at a loss too, as my wife walked out as well, and she a Christian Woman, and those that helped from the Church! I've been to see her a few times but she ends up demanding her list be fulfilled, so I don't know, maybe a mental illness thing. I get a lot of comfort from Job. Yours in ChristStephen Heatley.

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Permalink Reply by Gertrude Lulabelle Liverpoor on February 19, 2008 at 10:13am

Hi Rori,

I have been where you are...crying all the time....feeling sorry for myself. I know that God has plan for my life as well as yours and that he is working it out right now. I will not stop believing because I know that nothing is impossible for God. God is changing me in ways that I never thought possible. I am no longer in darkness but have been brought to the light through my spiritual relationship with the Lord. I invite you to find wisdom and understanding in God's Word. He will get you through the terrible storms and plant your feet on higher ground. Don't stop praying and believing. I will pray for you too.

Yours in Christ,


Lillie

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Permalink Reply by Rori on February 20, 2008 at 6:29am

Thanks Lillie,
As I read your messasge, God spoke to me and said "Baby Steps" One of my character defects we speak of in recovery. I forget this alot. I love God so much and KNOW He is always here for me (even when I get too scared or too busy to hear Him) it is usually the FEELING Him with me that I sometimes have trouble with, if that makes any sense. I am working on softening my hardened heart because that is ultimately what God wants isn't it??? My heart??

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Permalink Reply by Gertrude Lulabelle Liverpoor on February 20, 2008 at 10:07am

Hi Rori,

You are right. God does want your heart but he also wants you to love him with all your heart, soul, strength and mind. Trust him and he will help you. You need to put him first in your life and you won't have time to feel sorry for yourself. You will be led by God's Spirit and you will be praising him all the time for all his goodness and all his blessings. I know you are hurting but God can heal your hurts and he can bring you out of the depths of despair. With God all things are possible. Believe me, I have been where you are.

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Permalink Reply by simaho on November 26, 2008 at 3:38am

lillie walls
remember if you i doing some thing good, god always watching you,ther`s no any problem tha god can not solve it. i,m telling you that,keep praying god always hear you prayer,one of the day,you ll see you husband back. i`m praying for you in case of our problem we hahe. god bless you
and welcom to the Net

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Permalink Reply by Judy on January 30, 2009 at 9:04pm

Hi Lillie,
While reading your story I thought someone put my story in here, I was also married for 38 years, I came home one day my husband and his clothes were gone, we were married at the age of 14, I had never been alone, we had 2 grown daughters and 5 grandchildren, I hoped he would come back home, he had another woman in his life also, someone so very different than myself, It has been 5 years, I sometimes still wish he would come home. He does not see his children or grandchildren anymore, his friend stole my identidy and ruiend my credut, however she was charged with a feloney. My heart still and probably will forever ache and want what I had, but I need top remember what I had is no longer, he is not the same person, so what we need to do is remember it's what we had not what they are now, we don't want that. My heart is with you.
I will pray that you may heal somewhat, because we never get over someone that we were with this long.
God Bless you. Remember we are strong because we have to be.
Judy

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