What would you do in this situation...?

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Permalink Reply by Tammy on June 28, 2016 at 4:00pm

Homeschool them

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Permalink Reply by Carla on June 28, 2016 at 4:21pm

Hi Jess,

Tough situation! 

I had a really difficult situation with my oldest son about 13 years ago.  Without going into great detail about it, I'll just say he was being bullied due to a learning disability, and the teacher and principal ignored it.

This happened before I knew the Lord.  I responded the best way I knew how at the time and I withdrew him from the school and into another school (I know you said this is not an option for you).  It turns out it was the worst thing I could do.  I wish I had known then what I know now.  I wish I had known to pray through it and trust God with the outcome.  I wish I had known that the school would be hiring a new principal and the entire school would change for the better.  I wish I had known that the school I moved him to was a worse option and the bullying intensified....it was much worse.  I wish I had known that my son would suffer from being moved around so much.  I wish I had known that staying where we were would have taught him the importance of fighting through a difficult circumstance, because life is full of them, and running from them will only teach them to run from them.  We are meant to be victorious, and our kids can learn that even at a young age.  I wish I had also known the difficulties I was putting on him to make friends because he was not in our regular neighbourhood school with the rest of the kids...he always felt 'different'.

We moved our son for 4 years....and it was the worse decision we could have made.  I wish I would have known to pray and waited it out.  I know it sounds hard, but these are great learning grounds for learning forgiveness, love and grace in the face of opposition.  My son is dyslexic, and moving to the new school didn't help, it made things worse.  My son didn't learn to read until we returned to that same school several years later...under new authority with a new principal. 

In the process I learned to be an advocate for my kids, and by watching me, my kids learned to advocate for themselves.  Remember to always be kind and understanding forgiving and filled with grace.  Let your words and actions reflect the words and actions of our Lord.  Hold the school authority accountable, but do so gently.  You can do this.

The harder thing to do is to stay, but homeschooling has it's own challenges...  Staying  probably offers the most opportunity for learning grace, forgiveness and love if you accept this option.

If I could turn back time and do it over again, I would have stayed.

Homeschooling is a wonderful option for many families as well..   but in case it's not, consider the above. :-)

Blessings, Carla

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