If there is a god

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Permalink Reply by Mary O on October 15, 2014 at 6:55am

Bro. James, could you please give more information? I don't want to seem insensitive. Please forgive me if it comes across that way. What happened that caused you to ask this question.

Love,

Mary

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Permalink Reply by James ciraldo on October 15, 2014 at 10:31am

I fell in love with the greatest woman I ever met then one day I was not good enough anymore when all the while I was led to belive I was

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Permalink Reply by Tammy on October 15, 2014 at 5:27pm

So, what makes you God took her away?

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Permalink Reply by Seek on October 16, 2014 at 2:46pm

James, you first need to determine if it was God that took her away. If it truly was, the next thing is why? There are many reasons I can think of off the top of my head:

a. You loved her more than God
b. The relationship may have been toxic or destructive or become so later
c. God has something even better for you but He must first bring you through some things to develop your character.

I went through very similar circumstances shortly after accepting Christ. I didn't understand it either. Thought God was punishing me. But it wasn't that at all.

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Permalink Reply by James ciraldo on October 16, 2014 at 6:17pm

no it was great not toxic at all and i have been through the ringer so my character is well developed

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Permalink Reply by Tammy on October 16, 2014 at 7:11pm

Mind if I ask a few specifics? Did she willingly just leave? Did she say why? 

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Permalink Reply by James ciraldo on October 19, 2014 at 1:31pm

no no why at all i got its not you its me 

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Permalink Reply by Seek on October 19, 2014 at 2:48pm

Was she faithful to God?

How about you?

I'll be able to give you a likely reason after your response.

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Permalink Reply by James ciraldo on October 24, 2014 at 1:00am

yes she was faithful i belive in him now not so much i was faithful 

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Permalink Reply by Seek on October 24, 2014 at 6:32am

Well there could be a number of reasons.  Had she not been, it could be that God was keeping you from disaster or she realized she might hinder you from God because she knew she wasn't that faithful.  Being that you say she was faithful, hate to ask, but...how was your faith?  Were you both on equal fields here or did one have more faith than the other and perhaps she saw some inequality that would cause issues later.  Perhaps she felt she has some higher calling for God and needed to break off the relationship to go after that calling.

And then it could also be that, as humans, we do things, we make choices.  She made a choice to break up.  Her choice doesn't define you.  It hurts you, but doesn't define you.

I felt the same way when it happened to me.  Thought it would kill my faith.  But the opposite happened.  You can either allow it to destroy you or realize we all face tests that are meant to strengthen us and have us cry out to God for help...they humble us.  Being humbled, taught patience, learning meekness....from experience, none of these feel good while the process is going on, but it IS a process.  And along the way, we either accept that God knows what He's doing, even when we're hurting, or we don't. 

Don't let one relationship ruin THE relationship you have with God.  Truth is, it's over and done and there will be another, or maybe not.  Seasons change.  Think back to a time in your past you were severely hurt.  Perhaps bullied at school, or had parents that put you down, or teachers that did, anything that left you scarred.  They're in the past.  They happened, but you moved on and things changed.  This too shall pass, and you'll move on.  Later on down the line, you might see what it was God was doing, you might not. 

But the question you have to ask yourself is...why did I turn to Christ to begin with?  Has that reason changed?  If it was a good enough reason to cause you to turn to Him, it should still be a good enough reason now.

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Permalink Reply by Seek on October 16, 2014 at 7:25pm

You answered b and c. Did you give consideration to a? And that second part of b is that it could've become toxic later. Only God knows. But there's a human factor and satan too. Not everything is God taking something away. He didn't throw Joseph in a pit, or sell him, or try to seduce him, or throw him in prison. But He brought good out of it.

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Permalink Reply by ScribeD on October 27, 2014 at 11:30pm

If your relationship with God depended on a relationship with a woman, then that is probably why it ended. I'm going to say that your woman sensed that your identity was wrapped into the relationship with her. This is weakness and does not attract a good woman. 

When you can see God has perfect love for you and that you are clay, while He is the potter - then you will begin to become confident in His work to shape you. When you take the form God wants for you, you will become strong and have a sense of identity that is from Him. 

When you no longer depend on the relationship with another person to give you strength, but instead your strength and identity is from God, then you will be the man that a good woman will be attracted to; because you will be the man who can guide her to find her identity in Christ also. 

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