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Can I Vent
I love me some Christians. Let me say that before I start. I was sharing with someone how I had puked everything up that I had ever eaten since I was 2 & my head was killing me. Their response: God is in control. DUH. I know that but that doesn't make me feel any better. Then they said: Don't worry everything will be OK. I say I'm not worried I'M SICK. Again: You will be well OK. ME: I know I'll be OK but that does not help right now. Then: I am praying that you can get better. I said yea, whatever. I know I sound hateful but that drives me up the wall. It's like telling someone in mourning they're in a better place. Really? How does that help my heart right now. I say I'm sick please don't say God is over all, yadda yadda. I already know that. Say you're sorry or something. Actually, I'm not looking for u to say anything. I'm really just sharing. I'm not looking for a miracle because life is life. We gonna have sicknesses & trials. It is what it is. Do you feel the same as me or are you on the other end of the spectrum? Am I just ill right now? lol
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Permalink Reply by ribbon on
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I wouldn't be as pleasant as the Christians .... If someone was to tell me they had puked everything up since they were 2 , I would say DO NOT BREATHE ON ME. =D. Tammy when I was going to church and thinking I was a Christian. I was told in almost every situation that the devil was all over me... that they would pray for me . I remember once I was watching a hidden camera kind of show and the actor pretended to have his head stuck between stairway rails. He was hollering for help. This lady that didn't know that it wasn't rea came running to his rescue and she said oh no what do I do. She then asked him if she could PRAY for him. That was crazy.. =D.
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Permalink Reply by Tammy on
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No but u can put Vaseline on my head & squeeze me out. That's sad about what they told you in that church. They do so much damage to so many people with their tactics.
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Tammy and Mischelle. The people who would tell me the devil was on me meant well. I think that was what they believed. For example sometimes they would want me to go to the alter or simply to sit in front instead back.. I would say no I prefer to stay back... they would say that ole devil is latched on you then they would demand he go back to the pit he belonged and then tell me he wasn't on me anymore until later when I didn't do or think as they thought I should, then here came the devil. They would warn me that I should fast and pray to get his demons off. These ladies were very sweet I think just were taught wrong. I did question them about how could it be they could demand Satan back to hell. The church was a non denomination.
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Permalink Reply by Seek on
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No, it's not helpful. And yet....
I keep trying to remind myself we're all different. Perhaps these people just don't know how to respond and are trying to remain upbeat and positive, thinking that will help. Perhaps it is what they truly believe, or want to believe and so they just keep speaking the word. It seems to do more harm than good, but DOES IT? That's the question. Sometimes it's not the answer we think we need, but later on? Maybe it gets down into our system over time. I don't know. I just try to remember to each their own. If it don't help me, I shut it off and go elsewhere. Like when I came to you for some down to earth talk that day instead of the cliches. LOL
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And u know I'm going to bring u down to earth too. No floating in the clouds for me. Life is reality. God is in control but our Controller has put us in this life.
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Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on
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I see nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with telling a person’s the things that many find improper at different times of their lives. I love to know folks are praying or offer to pray for me in difficult times. I rather they pray with me, because I know we tend to forget to pray for those who we offered to pray for, but when someone tells me that they will pray, it blesses my heart, even when it is just something they say and not follow up.
I tell people their love one is now with the Lord, in a better place if they were born again. I also offer material and physical help when needed. I do not understand why Christians mind such sayings, even when we know that the saying may not be heartfelt, so what? Love them any way.
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You can love people and still be irritated when you're hurting that they can't understand how badly you hurt. You can love some people with a baseball bat even, but I don't recommend it. We're to avoid temptations. ;-)
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I mean love the people that say such things. The things some find superficial or even offensive. Love them. I still don't get why anyone would get mad at hearing truth, like "they are in a better place." there is a time for everything under heaven and i do understand that there may be a wrong time to say it, but the saying is true none the less and an excellent reminder. Of course some people can say it without the sightless sentiment of love, but why get aggravated about such a thing?
I personally am looking forward to the call that my dad has gone as well as my mother to that better place. I myself long to go, but for now and while i am here I will enjoy this side of heaven and do as much as possible to do God's will. I am writing that to remind us that there are those among us who are very different and it doesn't mean that they insensitive.
What i do take from a discussion as this one is that we must be sensitive to the leading of the Spirit. Some will get offended when sharing such truths in those difficult moments, while other will be fine. Hence the leading of the Spirit is essential in such moments; really, the leading of God in our lives is a must at all times.
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We need to remember though that leading goes both ways. Is the person saying these being led to or just saying it because they don't know what else to say? When someone is hurting, it becomes harder to listen to the leading of the Holy Spirit when a wound is fresh.
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I never said I didn't love them but I would love them much more if they wouldn't come at me with "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade" attitude. Absolutely I covet anyone's prayers but the ones that say "I'll pray for you & it will be OK". Really? Can I not pray & it be OK? Why do you think your prayer is going to put me on top of the world? Anyways, I know u all are right. I just wanted to vent at the moment. Have u ever stumped your toe & people say What happened? Are you OK? Sheesh, don't ask me that when I'm dying. lolol. No I'm not OK. Don't u see the tears streaming down my face? Don't u see my face is red as a tomato?
Personally, I hated the call when my mama went home. It was the shock of my life & destroyed me for years. Glad you're looking so forward to death but that's not on my bucket list.
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Tammy-
I am harping on this simply to remind us all how different we can be in somethings. We have Christ in common and that is huge, yet there is much diversity in the body. Like Paul and no, I do not think I am any where near Paul's maturity or beauty, but like him I am torn between this life and the next, I wish I was already with my Lord, it is going to be beautiful, beyond words, but He still doesn't want me :( there so I will enjoy life here with him for now, for this life has its own beauty. My mother's death or my fathers death could never destroy me. We will all die, none of us is exempt, well unless we are rapture before physical death.
Love you Tammy and believe it or not, I do get what you were trying to convey and I am in agreement with you as well, I was simply trying to balance the discussion and to give you a hard time hahahaha No, no just kidding sis. :)
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