being throwed away by your family.

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Permalink Reply by forgiven on January 19, 2012 at 3:42pm

dear sister.  I would like to pray with you right now. 

 Dear Jesus, I ask for comfort for my sister Teresa.  Please show her how much she is loved by you and wanted in your kingdom.  I pray that this 'season' of hurt will be very short, and that You will turn it into a deep heartfelt love for all she is near.  I know when people do and say hurtfull things, it is because they themselves are hurt and suffering inside.  Please give Teresa the strength to stand firm in Your love and continue undaunted in her expression of Your love to everyone around her.  Heal these hearts dear Lord.  Thank You Jesus.  Amen

Permalink Reply by Mary Doris Jones on January 21, 2012 at 12:42pm

Amen. Mary Doris

Permalink Reply by Jane Smith on January 19, 2012 at 5:04pm

Dear Teresa,

I am so very sorry to hear what you are going through. For one thing, I'd like to tell you that you are definitely not alone in that many people have this same problem. Sometimes when we're going through something we feel like we are the only one. And there are answers for what to do. I wonder if I could ask you a few questions to determine where you're at with this. Only answer what you feel comfortable answering. When you say your family, do you mean husband, kids and your relatives, too, or just certain ones?  Can you say why they are treating you badly? I mean are you the Christian in the family so they are being hurtful to you for that, or is it some other reason you can say? I am going to pray for you this evening and keep you in prayer. I'll get back to you when I get your answers first chance I get either tonight or tomorrow. Please hang in there a little longer, because there is hope for  how to handle this and you will get through it.

Love in Jesus,

Jane

Permalink Reply by teresa lynn morgan on January 19, 2012 at 8:59pm

yes im the christian in the family,and its my husband and my daughters and grand kids and my son in law. i have 3 grown daughters and 6 grand children. and every one of them treat me very mean. im trying to follow god . they always treat me like im not there and tell me i know nothing. i have been called stupid im not worth any thing. im hated by them. my husband has told me to leave , he dont love me i have been with him for 39 years now. im 53 he 54. he has said such mean things to me i cry every time i think of them. my own daughter told me if i died today she would dance on my grave. why i dont know i have gave up every thing for my family have always been there for them. i pray for them everyday. i love them and would never say hurtful things to them. i just dont understan why they have turned on me. it seems when i talk about god and go to church and try to teach them about god they turn mean and hateful. im trying to study to be a preacher i want to teach gods word to every one. it has been put on my heart to be a preacher to teach . but my family wont support me and help me do this. but i know god will. thanks so much for your prayers and help god bless.

Permalink Reply by Jane Smith on January 20, 2012 at 5:10pm

OK Teresa, I'm back and let's see if we can make a little more headway today.  I hope you are at least a little comforted that you came to this site and you've had some responses to your post. God's people are everywhere and the Lord is going to minister to you.

First of all,  please don't faint as I have a truck-load of questions to ask you in order to better understand where you're at. Just please answer what you can and leave the rest. My questions will not be in the most perfect order as I am limited on time, so just jump in wherever you feel lead. Here we go:

1) How long have you been going through this situation? How did it start?

2) Is there any violent behavior going on?

3) Do you feel like a prisoner in your own home or do you have some leeway to function normally?

4) Do you have your own space or is your ever waking moment under attack?

5) Do you have the financial means to separate yourself from the situation?

6) Do you have a safe place you can go such as extended family or friends?

7) I'm sure you have thought/prayed about your situation a million times. Are you leaning more towards staying or leaving?

8) Do your family members double-team you, snub you or  use any other tactics to make your life miserable?

I'm sure being a Christian that you have forgiven them long ago. The more you are able to think of them as under the enemy's power and not take it personally, the more peace you can have inside.  But when the people who have wounded you live in the same space 24/7, withhold love, support and cooperation and mercilessly sabotage/attack you, it becomes so evil that it is time to separate.

If the persecution is too great, you will not be able to think straight, will become bitter and resentful, even though you don't want to,  tempers flare and physical abuse can occur.  It just is not easy to have a calm demeanor when the enemy is using your family to systematically tear you apart. It's like being bitten by a thousand fire ants, no rest for your soul.

So Teresa, only you can determine how severe your situation is, if you should continue in solitude where you are or remove yourself from it. This is something only God can lead you in. You don't want to make any rash decisions, but seeing the big picture and having options will put you in the best position to seek the Lord in prayer. Try to see yourself preaching or teaching the gospel someday. This is just a bad bump in the road- you will get there!

Permalink Reply by Mary Doris Jones on January 20, 2012 at 1:18am

Teresa,

Been there experience that and the only thing you can do is pray for them, hope they change and move on, I did.

Sounds cold but sometimes you have to start thinking of self. Unfortunately the traditional family is not like they use to be loving, caring, do anything for you that they could, sit down to dinner together, but I am afraid those days or gone at least in my family.  In took on man dying (my father)and after that it seemed like our family went to hell.

 Mary Doris

Permalink Reply by Mary O on January 20, 2012 at 11:09am

And they took offense at him. But Jesus said to them, "Only in his hometown and in his own house is a prophet without honor."  (Matthew 13:57 NIV)

And they were deeply offended and refused to believe in him. Then Jesus told them, "A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his own family." (NLT version)

As Christians, we preach Christ, and we're going to come across people who get offended. The same kind of things happened to Jesus.

I can't tell you what to do. This is only an opinion, but if it were me, I'd separate myself from them at least for a while. I'd let them know where I'm going and maybe give them a phone number. Or if you can't do that, find a place in the house and listen to Godly music and Bible teachings. Shut the door and put out a do not disturb sign. Take a small tape player or CD player and your headphones and go to a coffee shop and listen to a Bible teaching. Take some time for yourself, God and healing. In my opinion, you need to strengthen yourself. Don't take all these hurtful things to heart. Proverbs last chapter the section on the virtuous woman. Your price is far above rubies. That's not the little synthetic gems we have. The Bible's talking about large gems that look like jello. Did you see the news story about the emerald that was found that was the size of one of the counters in my kitchen? We're talking virtuous woman along that line.

Love,

Mary

Permalink Reply by teresa lynn morgan on January 20, 2012 at 4:34pm

thank you so much for your advise it helps alot and i will try this look forward to talking again soon your freind god bless

Permalink Reply by Mary Doris Jones on January 21, 2012 at 12:48pm

God Bless You Teresa in Jesus Name Amen. Mary Doris