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What would you do in this situation?
Everyday I would like to feel happy and to live life to the fullest with all the people I love. I want to find a good church with the same belief I have and go there like it was my second home. I hope to get the Holy spirit and to live my life as God would be pleased with and to grow spiritually but my life is not that way. Just a few months ago I stop fornicating with my fiance and told him that I didn't want to do anything til I got married, so we should get married or break up. That was not simple in fact we broke up. As I am trying to build my relationship with God I realized I didn't want to marry someone who doesn't has a relationship with God and don't believe the things I believe in. I am not perfect and don't want to judge but my intake on marriage is so serious and something that is forever I don't want to make a mistake or rush into it and we're not even making a strong foundation first. I am standing my ground on this because I truly want to change my life around; we still live together because I want things to work out, because he lost his job and because the only person he felt that cared about him besides me which was his mom had died plus I don't want to leave and he has no where to go because I would be worried and feel bad. Now that sometime had past he want to get married but i'm not ready because I need to see some effort that he want to change. I told him unless he get a job and get to know the Lord with me, we can not be. I wanted to get away from all this stress for awhile by going to N.Y to see my family and to go to Virginia to see my sister but he doesn't want me to go because he think i'm going to cheat on him because last time I went to N.Y which was a year ago I lied to him about something that was unnecessary but I didn't cheat. Even though I understand how he feels I think he should also understand and if he still don't trust me then come with me but he wants to get married before going to N.Y regardless if I go alone or with him. It is so hard because I don't know what to do and I prayed so much to God to help me and I know he will but what do I do in the meantime when the situation continues to be brought up? I have faith and waiting but this is troubling my spirit because I don't want to lose him but importantly don't want to displease God. If anybody was in this situation, what would you do? How do you know if you hear God really tell you what you need to do?
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Comment by Amanda on May 6, 2010 at 11:41pm
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Thanks Michelle, I think God really is opening my eyes to alot of things I need to see. I just need the strength to do want is right because its hard when you heart is involved.
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Not you don't sound harsh at all. This really is a difficult situation especially since one day I planned on marrying him, but I just can't now that I realize these qualities I can't be married to. He believe in Christ and God but was brought up as a jehovah witness and want to go back to that but consider his self trying to know the truth about jehovah and christians belief
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I thought about that but he seems to think we don't need counseling even though some are for free. He think if we go its going to make us break up and that i'm always asking him to do something just so he can be with me. Also he told my older cousin who went to a church college, how he felt and his point of view about the counseling, how we stop fornicating but still sleep in the same bed and how he be tempted (I'm not tempted anymore but he is though he know its not gonna happen unless we are married, if i'm not tempted at all would it still be a sin?). My cousin told him that we can work it out and don't need counseling but I was right about stop fornicating. I don't understand why he would tell him we don't need counseling when he don't know the situation of our relationship but the thing that hurt is if you love someone so much to the point you want to marry them like I do for him, why not do everything that is going to make that person happy or at least at ease. I don't want to force him into knowing the Lord because it says in the bible that everybody has to find their own way and even if I tried someone who is not ready still would not be ready regardless if someone from the died try to warn them. I don't know what to do because he says if we break up he will never speak to me again and that kind of worries me because I don't know if he will hurt his self or become homeless and nobody will know where he is (he is not working and not that close to the little bit of family he has). I love him, I just want him to change that negative side of him and to visit my family without making him feel bad in anyway.
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