Seven Check List

There is seven check list (seven quality) for l us in choosing the living couple in perfect way :

1. COMMITMENT TO PERSONAL GROWTH (Commitment in the spiritual growth personally) – Count out nonchristian automatically
(Philippians 2:12) ‘work out your own salvation’ meant that we must have personal relations with God and continue to put God first not our girlfriend/boyfriend, with or without our girlfriend/boyfriend, we will continue to grow in Jesus, marriage Is from God, grow = his/her faith must be active

2. FIND SOMEONE WHO WALK WITH GOD (not about his/her charisma, should be not cheated!).
His/her life vision is to pleasing God, his/her spiritual life must be good, saw his/her spirit, radical in anywhere he/she was, the motivation and had a vision to pleasing God’s heart.

3. HONESTY ( Luke 16:10 )
He/she must be honest and loyal in the small case good in the work and in all the matters, should have “the spirit of excellent”

4. MATURITY & RESPONSIBILITY
the maturity and high responsibility
(1Corinthians 13:11) : from the way he/she talk, felt and thought, the habit, the age did not guarantee the maturity of someone, childish is seen from their habit

5. HEALTHY SELF IMAGE
healthy and great self image in Christ ( Matthew 22:39 )
first we must know how he/she love their self ,its mean that if someone doesn’t know how to love their self, how could he/she will be great husband/wife, treat theirself well is the mirror how treat his/her life personally and treat his couple. Possesive behaviour will tie his/her couple and show the feeling unsafe as well as the excessive concern, this could tie us as the idol in his/her heart.

6. POSITIVE ATTITUDE IN LIFE
(Philippians 4:4) Rejoice in the Lord always , don 't look for the person that negative against the other person, the situation, the living challenge, complain continue to have not been grateful, let God molding him/her form first.

7. PERSONAL CHEMISTRY
“Love Chemistry” love each other, the love will be increasingly passionate each day if this couple love each other.

(Taken from "My love Conference" by Ps.Philip Mantofa)