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Comment by Brandon on December 3, 2018 at 9:47pm

Thank you, Carla, this does provide some helpful insight. While we are engaged to be married, we are definitely, in no way, sexual. I have prayed to God for a way out, and I explained to her, my stance on the matter (this hurt her greatly,) but I told her that we need to find other arrangements, until we can get married. It's just hard because if the circumstances.

Comment by Carla on December 3, 2018 at 8:42am

Hi Brandon,

God Bless you that you want to honor HIM in your relationship with your girlfriend.

I found this article which may be helpful.  I'll post it here for you.  My personal thoughts--  it sounds like your girlfriend would be homeless or in a really dangerous situation if she didn't live with you.  Your description of your situation tells me that you are living more as platonic roommates than anything else.  If that is the case, I think it sounds fine that she lives there.  |However, having said that, there will be temptations which may be hard to resist if she continues to live there.  Have you prayed for God to provide a way out?

1 Corinthians 10:13 says "New Living Translation
The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure."

The book of Corinthians was written to a church where the people were steeped in sexual sin.

Here's the article:

Question: "Why is living together before marriage considered living in sin?"

Answer: This question could be much more easily answered if the Bible made a clear proclamation such as “living together before marriage or outside of marriage is living in sin.” Since the Bible makes no such definitive statement, many (including some who profess to be Christians) claim that living together outside of marriage is not living in sin. Perhaps the reason the Bible does not make a clear statement is that, in Bible times, the arrangement of unmarried people living as husband and wife was relatively rare, especially among the Jews and Christians. For the purposes of this article, when we refer to living together, we are referring to living together in the sense of living as husband and wife, including sexual relations, without being married. We are not referring to a man and woman living in the same house without sexual relations.

While the Bible does not make an explicit statement about living in sin, that is not to say the Bible is completely silent on this issue. Rather, we have to put several Scriptures together and glean from them the principle that any sexuality outside of the marriage of one man and one woman is sin. There are numerous Scriptures that declare God’s prohibition of sexual immorality (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Greek word translated “sexual immorality” or “fornication” in these verses is porneia, and it means literally “unlawful lust.” Since the only form of lawful sexuality is the marriage of one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5), then anything outside of marriage, whether it is adultery, premarital sex, homosexuality, or anything else, is unlawful, in other words, sin. Living together before marriage definitely falls into the category of fornication—sexual sin.

Hebrews 13:4 describes the honorable state of marriage: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” This verse draws a clear distinction between that which is pure and honorable—marriage—and that which is sexually immoral—anything outside of marriage. As living together outside of marriage falls into this category, it is sin. Anyone living together outside of lawful marriage invites the displeasure and judgment of God.

Hope this helps,

Carla