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I have come to a point in my life that I know more than anything that I need God my savior in my life. I have had many trials in my marraige to my husband Michael. We have been through alot,most I think today would have walked away and filed for a divorce if they were me. I have never loved another like I love this man. That doesn't mean I have always acted like I wanted to be married to him. I have had people tell me that I am crazy,but when I sit and truely think of my marriage I just can not give up on it. I don't know why,I just feel that God is telling me to not give up. I have had some things happen that I just can not ignore because I know they are Gods work and thats when I would be crazy to ignore that. My husband of four and a half years,we will be together five years this October is currently living with his girlfriend and has filed for a divorce. I know most people would give up and move on. But I just can't. I have prayed to God for answers and for guidance. My marraige is important to me. This is my family which has been my life. we have a four year old and I have a seven year old that thinks and has only known this man as his father. I do not think this is the best thing for my family. We have both made mistakes,friends and family tell me that his mistakes are worse than mine and its more his fault than mine. I think that one mistake is no worse than the other.They all hurt the other no matter what mistake it is. I can easily forgive this man,it takes patience and understanding.
I ask that you all pray for my marriage and healing of my family. I truely want my marraige and to put God in my marraige and family.
My husband is a believer in God he knows God better than I do. I have come to truly believe that this is Gods way of telling my husband that money is not the most important thing in life and it can not buy you true happiness. This other women has money and I truely believe that is what his relationship with her is about. I do not feel that my marraige is over, I think that this is Gods time with me to get me closer to him. I know that God has heard my prayers and I do not believe that it is his will for a divorce. I have to be patient and understanding now more than I ever have in my marriage. I believe with all my heart that my marriage can work. The reason I believe this is becausemI let him go last October and was seperated from him for 4 months I did not seek divorce and I started seeking the Lord a little at that time,God planted him right back in my life and things were great he was willing to go to church and put God in our lives,things happened and we put it off. Big mistake!!!! I believe that God put us back in each others lives for a reason because my husband would have died if it had not been for me and his sister,he had a car accident and was bleeding internally and refused medical treatment,his sister and I made him go to the hospital anyway and stay and get treated,he ended up staying in the hospital for about 3 days.When he came home he had a totally different outlook on life then he got fired from his job and for him there was no hope I truely believe that he does not feel like he deserves his family. But if you knew the person I know then you could understand why I can not just give up on him. I have spoken to him recently and after my conversation with him is when I joined this group. He did admit to me that his being with this other women is wrong and that he has made mistakes also as compared to a couple of weeks ago everything was my fault,so I know that God hears my prayers and I know that his will is not for a divorce,my attorney has told me that he has no grounds for a divorce. His relationship with this other women is based on lies to what extent I do not know but I do know that he has lied to her. He always tells me when I talk to him to have the kids call him but he doesn't call them much. I don't know what to think of that but God will give me the answer I know. Please keep praying for my marriage and for God to bring my husband home.
There are many things from God that tell me to not give up. But it is really getting hard. I know what I want in my heart and I know that it is not God's will for divorce but it seems that the wordly things are stacking up on me at this time. I have prayed to God everyday and I am feeling really frustrated now. I know all things are in God's time not ours. Last week when I had to make the appointment for the attorney I was very upset about making that call. I spent my lunch very upset and crying out to the Lord. When I returned to my desk at work a gentleman came in for help,I help him and afterward he tapped my wedding band and asked where my husband was, I was taken aback by this and was hesitant to answer he then asked if he was in the picture and said he had intuition about these things. I answered with he has filed for a divorce but I don't want a divorce. He then went on to tell me that it is not my fault and that I need to build my faith up in the Lord,that there is not such thing as love at first sight and that you learn to love someone by the things you respect in them. He then asked if we had children, I said yes and showed him a picture of my husband and children on my desk,he said something else but all I caught was someone to treat you right.Then he left and as he was walking out the door he said listen to what I said. This was on Tuesday,Friday is when I had my appointment with my attorney. Before I went I prayed that he just take care of it and let the response I give to his filing be what God wants. I went in and explained the whole thing to her and she told me that he has not grounds for a divorce.Then proceeded with the response,I am not really happy with the response but I don't think i will be happy with any reponse at this point. My children and I spent last Saturday with my in-laws at a football game for my nephew. We had a really nice time and they were really nice to me. My father-in-law offered to help me out. And when we got home I was really upset because I realized that they have been my family also.No we haven't always seen eye to eye but they are my family and I do love them. That is when I called my husband and he spoke with the kids and I spoke with him for a few mminutes. He did tell me that him living with this women and being married is wrong.He also admitted that he made alot of mistakes too,that we both made mistakes. We talked and it was good. He did say before we hung up to have the kids call him. We then tried to call him on Sunday after church and he did not answer and has not returned the call. From what I have been told this other women has her own business and she as pretty much turned it over to him to do all the work,she is 10 years older than him and I feel like they are using one another,her to build her business and him to make money. I feel really frustrated because I feel I am fighting against money. Please keep praying for God to turn my husbands heart back to our family and marraige and for God to guide him home.
I ask that you all pray for my marriage and healing of my family. I truely want my marraige and to put God in my marraige and family.
My husband is a believer in God he knows God better than I do. I have come to truly believe that this is Gods way of telling my husband that money is not the most important thing in life and it can not buy you true happiness. This other women has money and I truely believe that is what his relationship with her is about. I do not feel that my marraige is over, I think that this is Gods time with me to get me closer to him. I know that God has heard my prayers and I do not believe that it is his will for a divorce. I have to be patient and understanding now more than I ever have in my marriage. I believe with all my heart that my marriage can work. The reason I believe this is becausemI let him go last October and was seperated from him for 4 months I did not seek divorce and I started seeking the Lord a little at that time,God planted him right back in my life and things were great he was willing to go to church and put God in our lives,things happened and we put it off. Big mistake!!!! I believe that God put us back in each others lives for a reason because my husband would have died if it had not been for me and his sister,he had a car accident and was bleeding internally and refused medical treatment,his sister and I made him go to the hospital anyway and stay and get treated,he ended up staying in the hospital for about 3 days.When he came home he had a totally different outlook on life then he got fired from his job and for him there was no hope I truely believe that he does not feel like he deserves his family. But if you knew the person I know then you could understand why I can not just give up on him. I have spoken to him recently and after my conversation with him is when I joined this group. He did admit to me that his being with this other women is wrong and that he has made mistakes also as compared to a couple of weeks ago everything was my fault,so I know that God hears my prayers and I know that his will is not for a divorce,my attorney has told me that he has no grounds for a divorce. His relationship with this other women is based on lies to what extent I do not know but I do know that he has lied to her. He always tells me when I talk to him to have the kids call him but he doesn't call them much. I don't know what to think of that but God will give me the answer I know. Please keep praying for my marriage and for God to bring my husband home.
There are many things from God that tell me to not give up. But it is really getting hard. I know what I want in my heart and I know that it is not God's will for divorce but it seems that the wordly things are stacking up on me at this time. I have prayed to God everyday and I am feeling really frustrated now. I know all things are in God's time not ours. Last week when I had to make the appointment for the attorney I was very upset about making that call. I spent my lunch very upset and crying out to the Lord. When I returned to my desk at work a gentleman came in for help,I help him and afterward he tapped my wedding band and asked where my husband was, I was taken aback by this and was hesitant to answer he then asked if he was in the picture and said he had intuition about these things. I answered with he has filed for a divorce but I don't want a divorce. He then went on to tell me that it is not my fault and that I need to build my faith up in the Lord,that there is not such thing as love at first sight and that you learn to love someone by the things you respect in them. He then asked if we had children, I said yes and showed him a picture of my husband and children on my desk,he said something else but all I caught was someone to treat you right.Then he left and as he was walking out the door he said listen to what I said. This was on Tuesday,Friday is when I had my appointment with my attorney. Before I went I prayed that he just take care of it and let the response I give to his filing be what God wants. I went in and explained the whole thing to her and she told me that he has not grounds for a divorce.Then proceeded with the response,I am not really happy with the response but I don't think i will be happy with any reponse at this point. My children and I spent last Saturday with my in-laws at a football game for my nephew. We had a really nice time and they were really nice to me. My father-in-law offered to help me out. And when we got home I was really upset because I realized that they have been my family also.No we haven't always seen eye to eye but they are my family and I do love them. That is when I called my husband and he spoke with the kids and I spoke with him for a few mminutes. He did tell me that him living with this women and being married is wrong.He also admitted that he made alot of mistakes too,that we both made mistakes. We talked and it was good. He did say before we hung up to have the kids call him. We then tried to call him on Sunday after church and he did not answer and has not returned the call. From what I have been told this other women has her own business and she as pretty much turned it over to him to do all the work,she is 10 years older than him and I feel like they are using one another,her to build her business and him to make money. I feel really frustrated because I feel I am fighting against money. Please keep praying for God to turn my husbands heart back to our family and marraige and for God to guide him home.
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Comment by Tonya Hill on September 7, 2009 at 9:39am
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Hang in there!!!!! I just remarried this past June. Marriage can be difficult. However, this time I'm centering God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit in this marriage. I will turn to my god and my lord, Jesus for peace in this marriage and all my relationships.Amen!!!!!!!!!!
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Comment by Robert John Sage on September 2, 2009 at 5:45pm
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Brother from India we will most certainly pray for your Chief minister and we will also pray for all Christians in India
We will also ask our Church family here in Australia to pray
Bob
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Comment by RAJESWAR YARLAGADDA on September 2, 2009 at 2:04pm
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THANKS MY FRIEND!GOD BLESS YOU!
I REQUIRED YOUR URGENT PRAYER FOR.............................
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***DEAR FRIEND,TODAY MY STATE CHIEF MINISTER Mr.RAJASEKHAR REDDY HELICOPTOR MISPLACED FROM 1000HRS.KINDLY PRAY FOR HIM ,AS HE IS VERY HELPFUL PERSON TO POOR,ALAWYS HE IS THINKING FOR POOR PEOPLE.,AND HE IS AN BELIEVER OF LORD JESUS CHRIST!PLEASE PRAY...PRAY...PRAY...MY TOTAL STATE IS UNDER WORRY!GOVERNMENT HAS BEEN SEARCHING FOR THE HELICAPTOR,TO TRACE SAFELY...KINDLY PRAY!***
Your Brother....Y.RAJESWARARAO
ANDHRA PRADESH STATE(INDIA)
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Comment by Mayra Vasquez on September 2, 2009 at 9:40am
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Amen Amen Amen mama I loive your energy! first most God Bless you and your marriage and family. You are doing right leaving it in Gods hands He is the only one that truly knows and when He is ready He will let you know! So keep your Hope and FAith and Trust in HIM and all will work itself out...Continue your positive Attitude GoD is truly AWESOME! Amen.
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Comment by ALCEDES JONES on September 1, 2009 at 7:09pm
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OUR HEAVENLY IS AN AWESOME FATHER AND WE MUST CAST ALL OUR CARES ON OUR BIG BROTHER JESUS THE CHRIST LOOK TO THE HILLS WHERE OUR STRENGTH COME AND OUR STRENGTH COME FROM GOD AND IF IS HIS WILL THROUGH PRAYERS AND FAITH HE WILL PUT YOUR MARRIAGE BACK TOGETHER MY HEART AND PRAYS IS WITH YOU MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH THE GRACE YOU NEED TO STAND
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Comment by Christy Gabriel on September 1, 2009 at 6:46pm
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I have prayed again for you sister and Jesus will help you for sure. He is so dependable. Praise the Lord. Haleluja!!! Christy Gabriel
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Comment by Forevablessed Lopez on September 1, 2009 at 8:05am
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First Melanie, i wanna send you cyber hugs from one sister in Christ to another.... I feel your pain, and God does too more so then we could ever imagine and one thing i have learned is that God listens and he answers but in his timing NOT ours... Marriage is hard trust me i know, i been with my husband for 18yrs, we have 3 children together and BOY have we been and still are going thru fires... we both have gone outside the marriage, for almost a yr we were both seeing other ppl but that wasnt God's plan cause despite how horrible things were he managed to always bring us together some how.. and although things are NOT wonderful they are NO where near the way they was and that is because God hears my prayers everyday and i KNOW he is working in my husband and i KNOW my husband will be saved. Sweetie its much easier to walk away then to stay and fight but rest assured that IF this is the marriage God wants for u, he will make it happen NO matter who is in the way, God knocks down all barriers that are in his way in this case this other woman... u just continue to PRAY and BELIEVE and leave the rest to God.... im here for u sweetie, feel free to reach out...
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Comment by Pastor Bob B on September 1, 2009 at 5:22am
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COURAGE IN THE MIDDLE OF ADVERSITY
Adversity is a great test of our courage. Courage is an attribute that God demands of us as we trek the road of life. Let us look at courage from a scriptural stand point. There are several different uses in the Scripture. Understanding these uses can help us to be more courageous in our every day walk with the Lord, and in the face of adversities that we might have to face.
1.Growing strong in our Courage in the face of adversity
2 Samuel 10:12 uses this word: "Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and for the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His sight."
Numbers 13:20 says; “And what the land is, whether it be fat or lean, whether there be wood therein, or not. And be ye of good courage, and bring of the fruit of the land. Now the time was the time of the first ripe grapes.”
In these two verses we see that Courage is something that needs to be develop in us, something we need to to grow firm in, or to be strengthen in. It is one thing to have some one tell us to be courageous, and another thing for us to become courageous.
2.know that fear can rob us of our courage in the face of adversity
In Joshua 2:11 : Rehab told the spies that the people of Jericho had lost their courage because of fear. "And as soon as we had heard these things, our hearts did melt, neither did there remain any more courage in any man, because of you: for the LORD your God, he is God of heaven above, and in earth beneath."
This word for courage has it it a since of having a broken spirit. ( the lost there spirit or courage )
Fear can paralyze us, it can drain our strength and can crush us in the face of adversity.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. ( 1John 4:1 )
3. Stirring up our strength and courage in the face of adversity.
Daniel 11:25 say, "He will stir up his strength and courage against the king of the South with a large army; so the king of the South will mobilize an extremely large and mighty army for war; but he will not stand, for schemes will be devised against him.”
This reminds me of Samwise Gamgee in, “Fellowship of The Ring.” Frodo Baggins
was unable to go on any more, and Samwise reached down within himself and found courage to help his friend fulfill his mission.
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." ( Philippians 4:13 )
"That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man." ( Ephesians 3:16 )
4. Finding courage to be bold in the face of adversity
Acts 28:15 says, “And the brethren, when they heard about us, came from there as far as the Market of Appius and Three Inns to meet us; and when Paul saw them, he thanked God and took courage.”
This courage and boldness that Paul received came out of fellowship with those of like faith. There is nothing like having a group of affirming brothers and sisters in the faith encouraging us especially in the face of adversity.
We won't find this kind of courage if we are segregated from fellow believers. This is all part of the reason why we are encouraged not to forsake the assembling of ourselves together with other believers. ( Hebrews 10:35)
5. Being courageous by being alert in the face of adversity
“Be strong and courageous, (alert ) do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.” ( Deuteronomy 31:6, Deuteronomy 31:7, Joshua 1:7, 9, 18, 10:25 )
We need to be alert in the face of adversity. This word for courageous reminds me of the scripture in Ephesians 6:10, “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might.”
We need the always know that we can be courageous in the strength of His might. As you continue reading on in Ephesians chapter 6 you will see that there are some things we can do to that will help us to be alert and courageous in our every day walk with the Lord.
Conclusion
We can grow in and develop courage in our lives, we can get rid of the courage stealer such as fear, we can find boldness and a courage from within from the Holy Spirit, we can also find encouragement from brothers and sister in Christ, and we can also be strong and alert in the battles we are facing by being strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.
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Comment by Masaaki.T on September 1, 2009 at 12:16am
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Of 2 Corinthians 1:3-7, Bible quotation on my last comment, following two sentences lacks,
"If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 7And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort."
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Dear Melanie, I don't imagine how much you anguish over this matter. It is one of the most suffering things that beloved one turn away from me and goes to other love. As Bible says and you know, there is God who control everythings and what He has and knows well for each of us is not A plan or B plan, but His plan. Keep praying and standing firm on His words.
"Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. " 1 Corinthians 15:58
"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. " 2 Corinthians 1:3-7
In Christ, Masaaki
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