I used to get frustrated with the lack of communication between Lynn and I. I always felt like we needed to talk over situations that crush our heart. Within a 5 year period she lost a father, grandmother, brother (at 27) and part of our family. Me on the other hand had not lost anyone in my life that was close to me. I knew she was hurting inside and I felt like she needed to talk about it. Now, my wife is one strong lady. She is much stronger than I am as I tend to get consumed with my emotions. She does know that my door is always open. I think she just searches in different ways when it comes to facing pain instead of bringing up the pain. I am not going to mess with what works for her. She just needs to know that I am there.
So there really wasn't much talk about losing that little one. We just focused on the fact that we were going to have twins now.
Things seemed to be going pretty smoothly until I got a phone call at work. It was Lynn on the other line and she was pretty much in hysterics. I couldn't understand what she was saying. If I remember correctly I believe an ambulance driver took over and told me to meet them at the hospital that there was an issue with the babys.
Now I was numb. All I could think about was her. The thought of losing the babys never entered my mind. I was really scared. I told the people at work that I had to go. I was in such shock they almost had to kick me out of the door. This was a situation that I never had experienced before, so I didn't know how to handle it. So I raced on over to the hospital only to find out that I beat the ambulance. A nurse took me to the room where she was to be admitted to. I waited, and waited. I was getting worried thinking the worst had happened. Then Lynn came through the door in a gurney. She had a smile on her face which gave me a sense of relief. Her spirits were good which gave me the indication that maybe we dodged a bullet.
So she told me what happened and the reason why she had to call for emergency. As she was talking a doctor walked in to explain the situation.
Found out that Lynn's cervex was weak and was starting to give way. So she was to be on bedrest for the duration of her pregnancy.
Now we were sitting at roughly 21 weeks!! So you are talking about 4 months of laying in a bed. Fortunately the babys were okay.
So thats what we were delt with. Everything happened so fast we really didn't know how to deal with this turn of events. So we tried to make the best out of a difficult situation. I was just hoping that 4 months of bed rest wouldn't make my wife crazy. It did help that she was able to do some of her work from the hospital bed.
Now anyone that has been on bedrest knows that it isn't a picnic. As tough as my wife was, being in that stagnic position after a few days was taking its toll. Her shoulders and back were getting the brunt of the discomfort because all her weight was forced towards her upper half. I felt helpless as there was nothing that I could do for her. Things got a little better after two weeks of getting settled in and getting comfortable to her new surroundings. Thats when things took a drastic turn for the worse.
To be continued.......
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4-6 weeks
How long were you on bedrest Tami? And how old are your twins now?
Man, been there done that with the back pain. I have twins
What you will see as you continue holds true in the pain that we endured. I have not even scratched the surface yet. There are a few peaks and valleys as the story continues. Thanks for the responce and also for reading Amanda.
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