Marriage

While in a taxi last week heading to I don't know where, I saw this woman who seemed mature enough to be having two kids or so. Apparently the driver and I were staring at her. She was beautifully dressed and I found my self telling the driver, "You will be shocked to find out the husband is unfaithful to such a beautiful lady." What the driver said crushed my heart. He said without blinking, "Being unfaithful is a must! A man should have another woman out there" I don't remember continuing that conversation. What has become of us men?

Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives.... Which consists in a strong and cordial affection for them; in a real delight and pleasure in them; in showing respect, and doing honor to them; in seeking their contentment, satisfaction, and pleasure; in a quiet, constant, and comfortable dwelling with them; in providing all things necessary for them; in protecting them from all injuries and abuses; in concealing their faults, and covering their infirmities; in entertaining the best opinion of their persons and actions; and in endeavoring to promote their spiritual good and welfare: this love ought to be hearty and sincere, and not feigned and selfish; it should be shown in private, as well as in public: it should be chaste and single, constant and perpetual; it should exceed that which is bore to neighbors, or even to parents, and should be equal to that a man bears to himself; though not so as to hinder, and break in upon love to God and Christ: many are the reasons why husbands should love their wives; they are given to be helps unto them; they are companions of them; they are wives of covenant; they are their own wives.

As for women,1 Peter 3...respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.

Respect your husbands. Respect is both a verb and a noun, an action and an attitude, so begin today to respect your husband in thought, word, and deed. He will be more willing and able to give you the love and affection you need if he is respected and admired. 
For the ladies contemplating divorce because they have realized things are not going to be better any sooner...please don't give up. Give your husband another chance. Let him prove to you that things can be different. Keep your family together. Divorce is not a simple answer. It causes unimaginable pain and suffering more so when children are involved. It takes an enormous amount of energy to face each day. Why not take this energy and learn some new skills and make your marriage what you've wanted it to be for so long?
Am not saying its going to be easy, even when the man is showing changes, somehow you will not take it so easily. The same impenetrable wall that for years shielded youfrom pain, now prevents you from truly recognizing his genuine willingness to change. So, its a step by step journey.

If you're a man like me reading this and your wife has been complaining or nagging, thank her. It means she still cares about you and your marriage. She's working hard to make your love stronger. Perhaps your wife is no longer open to your advances because she's a soon-to-be walkaway wife. If so, don't push. be patient. If you demonstrate you can change and she still has eyes... and a heart, you might just convince her to give your marriage another try.
Cheers.