I'm So Glad It Happened

I think I may have some valuable thoughts about my own question here.  Is it possible not to lift a finger and still be successful in finding and keeping the life partner that God has intended for you? I
think it is... if you read the book of Tobit, it's written all over
there... Tobias and Sarah was meant for each other from the beginning of
creation. I think the struggle comes in because we, humans, have free
will. We try to control and perhaps alter what God has already written
as our future. And sometimes we mess up and we begin to question and
blame God for the hard times we go through in finding and keeping the
one we supposedly love. But had we allowed God to move freely in our
lives... Just like Tobias and Sarah... our heart would have been
prepared and it will be no sweat to find and keep that life partner He
intended for us.

I say this is my  50% of the story...I was still in a heart break mode... I was beginning to wonder why God is taking so long to heal me and deliver me from that state, it's been almost 2 years and I was still
in the same situation as when he (the guy) had chosen another woman
over me. I decided to try and discover what God was trying to tell me
through this experience and I was really hoping to get out of this sorry
state upon understanding His motive. And so I went to back to seriously
reading His Word again. Much on a regular basis... and I looked for
online resources on spiritual growth... Voila!  I found this site! I
liked its online bible and while exploring the AAG site...I discovered
its chat room. I remember having trouble with chat at first... could not
manipulate it properly on my laptop initially. But later after...
things ran smoothly. 

Eventually, one thing led to another... without me having to lift a finger. Everything just happened so naturally. A few trials of chat time... and when finally successful to operate chat,  there he was! I
didn't think much of it because it was chat. I am skeptical about most
things unseen. But I was led to open up and with continues prayer for
guidance... things just kept running its course. No sweat, I tell you...
despite the obstacles presented to us... I feel rather calm. Nothing
that God cannot take care of. Apprehensions vanished, mindsets changed,
and the desire to make God lead this connection between him and me was
just there, felt and made real.

True, we still do not know what the future holds for us... only God does. But even this uncertainty is not giving me a hard time... I  just rely on God's goodness and wisdom. I would say... it is possible not to
lift a finger in finding and keeping a life partner. I think the effort
required of us is not in doing that, but is in allowing God's grace and
blessings to enter our life. Our focus should be in how to delight in
the Lord so that we may be open to His will and will not struggle by
unconsciously mis-aligning our own human will from His. If you just let
God... I think everything will happen in such a way that should there be
obstacles, hindrances, delays... God will grant you the grace to
overcome and not feel exhausted and depleted by thinking and feeling you
were on your own to make things right. I truly believe if it is His
will... it will happen. God does not break His promises... that is
written.