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How long before you let go

For some time now I have been trying to heal my broken heart. It has been about five months now sense I found out that my husband of 14 has been cheating. He has not shown any signs that he is willing to save our marriage and the only thing that he has said is that I should get use to it he is not ending his affair and I tried to leave that I would not be able to force him to support me and our three children. I have been praying that God softens his heart and opens his eyes to see that his new life style is only hurting our children and me. I have been praying that God shows him that with out God in our lives we are nothing that without liveing our life in a way that is pleaseing to God we will continue to be lieving in darkness. I would not like for my marriage to end but if he is not happy being married and a father then it would be best for him to leave. I know that God's plan is greater then me or my husband. I know that as long as I keep God in my life and the life of my children loseing my husband will not be so painful. Because I know that it will be very painful but as long as my children know that God's Love is greater then any love man can give loseing their father will not be so painful. I know that it has been very painful for me to know that each time that he goes out that he might be going to be with that woman. It hurts to know that he would rather spend time with her then with us. He is just so lost to that woman that he has turn his back on other family members who have been very supportive to me. Family members who are his own family because I could not trun to my own family because all I would get from them is a big "I told you so...He never really loved you....he only married you for his pearsonal gain" When his family all have been saying make sure that what you choose what ever will be best for you and the children, and for that he has been turning his back on some of them and that is not right. My husband is filled with too much pride to ask for forgivness so all he does is trys to not talk about the subject and ignore that there is a problem that need to be addressed. So if any of you read this and care to share how you have gotten over a broken heart please help. I know that as long as I keep my faith and I stay in the light of the Lord and give my testamony of the Lords word I will be fine. Yet there are times that I feel so sad that my cross is so heavy but then I stop and I think to my self. " God would not have given me this cross if he knew that I would not be able to carry it." So I keep on telling myself God's time is not my time and He will anwser my prayers when he knows that it is the right time not when I say.

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Comment by Lina on March 19, 2012 at 6:30pm: Dear sister, I know what you are going through because I've trod that path. Its so sad how the devil thinks he can break us and ruin our happiness. When I discovered my husband was sleeping arouind with my 'best' friend, I thought my life was over. I was lucky, I quickly realised that the only one who could help me was our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. I felt so betrayed especially when I discovered that he even fathered her son. The only question I asked my husband was "why". Though I asked him this question, I knew in my heart that no answer could justify his actions. I have not asked him anything else about this affair since that day. What was worse was that I work in the same place with this lady and I still work with her and see her everyday. Sister, I felt I was in hell! Many colleagues gave me the best advice that they felt would help me.   I listened to them but I had my own plan.

To avoid being told more lies, I decided to direct my questions to God, seeking His direction instead of my husband. This I know is humanly impossible, but with God ALL things are possible. I spent all my free moments communing with God; reading the word of God. All I wanted then was to be with God. I thank God I am still with my husband today. While praying for the Lord to take charge, I refrained from talking about what happened. I could talked to him about anything else but that.

We serve a mighty God! My husband apologised and I asked God to give me the courage and will to forgive the both of them. Through all this, I have come to know and appreciate God better.   I always tell myself, that God wanted me so badly He had to allow my husband's unfaithfulness to get my attention.

Sister, it is not over until the Lord says so. People who know me always wonder how I managed to survive, but I know it was by His grace. Trust Him to give you strength to overcome all this. You will realize that when you give all this to Him, you will feel much relieved and the pain will not be so bad.

Father Lord, you know what my sister is going through, you are the ONLY comfort she has right now. Give her strength and courage and fill her with your peace. Protect her from all anxiety so that she'll be able to hold her family fogether. Her children are in your care.   Wrap them all in your warm embrace so they feel the assurance that they are in your safe hands. Amen!

God bless you sister Maritza! I know that all will be well by His grace.

Comment by Maritza R. Rios on March 18, 2012 at 8:01pm: Thank you Amanda yes I do need lots of prayers that is why when this whole nightmare started. I know that the power of prayer is stonger then anything so every time I get to put in a prayer request I do . Not only for but for my children, my husban, and yes even for that woman. Because she must be lost thinking that she is right by being with my husban. So pray for her too.

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