How Happy are The Sad? Matthew 5:4

Introduction: 1. Psa. 55:6-8 "Oh, that I had wings like a dove! For then would I fly away, and be at rest, Lo then would I wonder far off, and remain in the wilderness. I would hasten by escape from the windy storm and tempest"
2. Each of us experience disappointments and sorrows in life. If only I could escape from my problems and rest. The deeper the pain the more elusive comfort is.
3. Matthew 5:4 "Blessed are they that mourn; for they shall be comforted." It does not meant that we go about life with a long sad and suffering look. That is not what the verse is saying.
It is saying that the progress to happiness, begins with godly sorrow in one's heart over sin. It is sin that robs us of our peace, joy, satisfaction and true rest. The definition of sin is to "miss the mark." God has a way for us to live our lives in a satisfying way and to live at peace with the world.
However, many miss the mark of having the life God intended by spending one's time on worldly pursues rather putting God first in our lives. That is a worst mistake a person can make.
Colossians 1:18 says to give Christ the preeminence in our lives....that means first please.
Jesus Himself said Matthew 6:33 "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."
4. This is contrary to human experience. Society is pleasure mad. Most of life is spent seeking pleasure, fun, comfort and avoiding sorrow and pain.
ILLUS: A husband in an unguarded moment makes a statement to his wife that is cruel and hurting. He immediately knows his wrong and because of his love for his wife is grieved that he has hurt her. His spirit is down and he wishes he had not make the statement. He mourns in his spirit over his wrong doing. He then with deep humility goes to the love of his life and asks for forgiveness. The wife then freely gives forgiveness because of her love for her husband. Then comes reconciliation and peace. Think for a moment that if the husband or wife would let pride keep them from asking for or giving forgiveness. You see the mourning over a wrong that was committed brought happiness.
5. The world makes light of honest sorrow and seeks instead to laugh at everything denying the problem or blaming it on someone else. The results is the put forth a false face, ignore the harm done and lose their peace. Luke 6:25, "Woe unto you that laugh now! For ye shall mourn and weep"
6. Jesus condemned the superficial laughter of the world and offered blessings comfort those who mourn.
7. It is certainly true that the gospel only can give true comfort to those in affliction. Only those who no the reality of the penalty of sin can appreciate what it means to be forgiven.
Only those who with spiritual eyes can understand the destructiveness of sin in one's live and truly be thankful for deliverance.
The world offers us the sources of consolation, but they do not reach the deep sorrows of the soul. Worldly counselors put a patch over the problem, but never cure it.
The world says be happy, laugh joke do whatever feels good. One needs only to turn on the television and see the many comedies that make jokes about sin to see what the world offers to make people laugh.
These may blunt and numb us to the sensibilities of the mind. They may only offer an empty solution, that is in truth not a solution, but rather makes the problem worst.
They do not point to the true source of comfort. In the God of mercy only; in the Savior; is the peace that flows from the assurance of deliverance.
There can be no true joy without sorrow. This is what the Lord is teaching us here. A person must deal with their sins. First in salvation and seeking God's forgiveness and eternal life. Next in making a true commitment to live the life God has for each of us. Sadly, many live a cheap unfulfilling life because they leave the Lord out.
I. How can those who mourn be happy?
A. There are nine Greek words in the New Testament to speak of grief. The word use in the passage is the is the strongest and most intense.
B. What kind of blessedness and mourning is Christ talking about?
1. General Sorrow: Weeping and mourning are apart of human life. Did you know the ability to cry and shed tears is a gift of God? Crying cleans on emotionally. People weep when they lose love ones. It is normal and helps us deal with the grief.
a. Psalm 42:1-3, "As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God. My soul thirsteth for God, for the living God? My tears have been my food day and night, while they continually say unto me, Where is thy God?
b. In 2 Timothy 1:3-4. Timothy was weeping because of terrible discouragements and defeat in his ministry. Paul wrote to instruct and comfort him.
"I thank God, whom I serve from my forefathers with pure conscience, that without ceasing I have remembrance of thee in my prayers night and day; Greatly desiring to see thee, being mindful of thy tears, that I may be filled with joy." c. Jeremiah 9:1, God called the prophet to preach judgment. He preached in tears.
"Oh that my head were waters, and mine eyes a fountain of tears, that I might weep day and night for the slain of the daughter of my people!"
d. Acts 20:31, Paul was concerned for the Ephesian church. He warned them of the "grievous wolves enter in among you, not sparing the flock." In tears he warned them of the false teachers and those that would destroy this church Paul loved the church and cried over it.
"Therefore watch, and remember, that by the space of three years I ceased not to warn every one night and day with."
e. Mark 9:23-24, Father of a demon possessed child cried for his son.
f. Psalm 126:5-6 Earnest love for souls makes one weep.
"They that sow in tears shall reap in joy. He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him.."
g. Luke 7:37-38, The sinner forgiven by the Lord Jesus will wept in thanksgiving for redemption and forgiveness of sin.
"And, behold, a woman in the city, which was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at meat in the Pharisee's house, brought an alabaster box of ointment, And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipe them with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment."
h. The Bible says that Jesus wept at the grave of Lazarus because he loved him. (John 11:35).
g. Tears are a God given way to cope with sorrow, loneliness and hurt.
Ecclesiastes 3:4, says there is a time a time to weep and a time to laugh.
2. There is weeping that is wrong and harmful.
a. King Ahab, 1 Kings 21:4, lay down in his bed and turned away his face weeping and would eat no food. He lusted for Naboth's vineyard.
b. Unwillingness to let go grief can be excessive. One can lose a loved one or husband or wife and grieve themselves to death or ill health.
ILLUS: It is not right to be so possessive. In some cases it is selfish. I heard the testimony of a mother who lost her son. She had three other children. She grieved so, they were not taken care of. Relatives had to come and take them and care for them. For 18 months she grieved. Finally she truly, in trust turned to the Lord. It was in His hands, and she had to simply trust in that. She could do nothing. She then realized she had responsibility to her husband and family. She saw that her excessive grief was not a good testimony of her faith and dependence on God.
c. Guilt can cause excessive sorrow. Some people overdo sorrow because of guilt. David grieved excessively when his rebellious son Absalom was killed. He grieved because he had been a terrible father.
3. Someone wrote a poem that says:
"I walked a mile with Pleasure,
She chatted all the way,
But left me none the wiser,
For all she had to say.
I walked a while with Sorrow,
And ne'er a word said she,
But, oh, the things I learned from her
When Sorrow walked with me.
Proper sorrow, mourning and tears builds strength in a person. But Jesus was not necessarily talking about feeling better because of crying.
He is talking of Godly sorrow.
B. The Definition of Godly Sorrow.
1. It is sorrow over sin. 2 Cor. 7:10. "For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of, but the sorrow of the world worked death." Godly sorrow over sin brings repentance and life. Jesus was not saying Blessed are those that are lonely or discouraged.
He was saying Blessed are those who are sorry about their sinfulness.
2. It begins with poverty of spirit. The first principle is in Verse 3, Blessed are the poor in spirit, their is the kingdom of heaven.
A Person first must become poor in spirit, seeing themselves are they are...without pride totally in need of help.
Happy is the man who realizes he is spiritually destitute.
Two of my class mates in college, formed a church of intellectuals, for professors doctors and lawyers. They said they would never be saved and come to Christ, in most churches because they upper case people. These men were blind to their arrogant pride. They saw themselves as superior to the rest of us all the while being spiritually destitute.
Yet, the Bible teaches that all men who are truly saved, start on ground zero! All on the same plain. All who come to Jesus come one way...confessing themselves as the sinners they are....
3. It involves internal agony. The word "mourn" is the strongest in the Greek. It refers to the of deepest of sorrow. This is more than a shedding tears and external sorrow.
David was a gross sinner. Guilty of adultery of murder, lying. Yet, what redeemed him was that he was his sorrow for sin.
Psalm 51:10-12. Create in me a clean heart oh God, and renew in me a right spirit.
Psalm 32:1 "blessed is he whose sins are forgiven whose sin is covered."
4. True sorrow results in forgiveness. "If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us." (1 John 1:8-10)
Folks try to bottle up your sins and it will ruin you. You may have some success enough to not let it bother you to much. But what happens is you harden your heart.
When you become broken hearted over your sin, then and only then will God comfort you.
Christians today do not mourn over sin. The Bible says, "A merry heart doeth good
like a medicine." But today we are out of balance. The emphasis is on being happy ....the little yellow smile faces you see everywhere. Yes, it is good to be happy, but true happiness cannot be found if one's sin is denied, hidden and not confessed. Sorrow of over opens the way to peace and happiness..
You can't be happy till you are forgiven!
II. How can one become a true mourner?
A. Recognize hindrances.
1. Love of sin.
2. Despair... giving up on God.
3. Conceit... I not that bad,
4. Procrastination. Putting it off. 5. Excessive merriment... Living in a false world of parties and good times...joking etc
B. Remove the hindrances.
1. Look at the cross! It was a place of suffering. It brought salvation.
Man has a real capacity to ignore things that he knows are wrong. Most of us are good at covering up sin. Yet, there is a detrimental result of denying our problems. If left unchecked we can become like a rock, unemotional, unfeeling of Christ's suffering for us. Our prayer should be:
"Smite my hardened soul and give to me that everlasting water that quenches the soul that thirsts after God, that I may be comforted and filled at the fountain of God's forgiveness and at peace with you're my Lord"
2. Pray for a contrite heart. Confess your sin and ask God to forgive you.
Conclusion:
The world lives in sin and certainly knows nothing of the happiness that can comes from sadness. Sin will rob you of every good thing that God has for you in your life. God lifts up those that mourn over sin. God removes the cloud that darkens our hearts and lives. He brings peace....true lasting peace no matter what the circumstance.
Those that grieve over sin and that sorrow that they have committed it, and are afflicted and wounded that they have offended God, shall find comfort in the gospel that gives the full assurance of salvation, forgiveness and peace with God.
Peace with God brings inward purpose, and satisfaction to our hearts. Therefore the person who mourns in his spirit, seeks God, will find the true happiness.
Blessed and happy are those that mourn.
Many people are lost in sin, and yet they refuse to admit their plight. They laugh it off. I heard a man recently say he probably was going to hell, but it would not be so bad because all his friends would be there too. What a serious error to make light of hell rather than mourn over one's sin and ask God for forgiveness. The Lord promises to forgive, but He cannot if we don't from our hearts ask.

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