I found this video, "Scars" by Jonny Diaz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C5avBGmFjJo
Reminds me of 8th grade. Except I didn't cut, I scratched myself. I looked online and found out other people have scratched. It's a relief to know I'm not alone...The burden is lessening on me now. I thought I was alone in scratching in 8th grade. A great burden has been lifted off of my heart. While it's still too difficult to tell my parents...atleast the burden of thinking I was alone in doing that is gone. I do have a burden I need to get off my chest though. Did I cut? Was I a cutter or is scratching in a different category?
There's another video "More Beautiful You" by Jonny Diaz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5LPc9jXk80
I admit I've struggled with this. I have low self esteem [by the Grace of God though it's better than it was before though]. I held it in unsubcochently what I was told. I realize it still had an effect on me even though I didn't realize it.
In 9th grade [at lunch] a boy asked if I was from etheopia. He thought I looked like an etheopian. I remember him looking at my wrist.
My friend in 10th grade said one day at lunch. "I think she's bullemic." The day after she said she thought I was anorexic.
My wrists are skinny, my hands are small.
I can't seem to gain weight. I looked on the scale and think I lost a pound, now I'm to 104 pounds.
I've struggled with this. In the past I've tried to gain weight by eating more [I gave up doing that because it wasn't going how I wanted it to] . That only made me look like I had a bigger belly. I was not happy. -_- Than that makes me think I'm overweight. I'm bothered though...was I a binge eater? I'd just like to have the burden off me to know what eating disorder I had at the time.
Anyways, I don't have to worry about my weight. That song from Johny Diaz helps. But, a scripture that really helps get me through this is 1 Samuel 16:7
"...for the LORD seeth not as man seeth;for man looketh on the outward appearance,but the LORD looketh on the heart."
God doesn't look on the fact that I can't really seem to gain weight [it takes a long time when I do gain a few pounds]. He looks at the heart.
I might as well get this off my chance as well.
A girl in 9th grade looked at me at lunch and asked "Is that good?" I'm very sensitive when it comes to food...not sure if that effected me but I'm getting it off my chest just in case.
I'm also needing this off my chest. When I was younger, the family and I went to Long John Silvers. "G." [my mom doesn't want me to call "G" my aunt. She really doesn't like "G". I guess she hasn't treated me that great a few times]. Mom says my real aunt is "C". She died when I was younger but mom says that's my true aunt.
Anyways, "G" looked at me and told me "Is that good?" My mom really wasn't happy when she said that. I guess it may have unsubcochently effected me and how I view eating.
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You're right. :) He will work it all out in His timeing.
I think a lot of why people have a harder time than back in like Little House days is because the school system has tried to shield the students from so much. Then when they get in the adult world things are difficult. I think it effects the school system as well. For when something serious happens [like bullying] they don't always know how to handle it.
As you wrote last night: "But God is healing me. He's very pacient (patient)." So must you be!
Being low-20ish in these times in the US is a pretty scary experience, with moral mine fields every where you turn laid by those trying to corrupt you for their own means (including gross materialism and consumption, unhealthy lifesyles, et al.), and it appears the modern education system in no way is designed to produce adults, but simply trained perpetual adolescents.
There was a time not long ago (circa WW2), when at 17 or 18 many were embarking on the great journey of life by marrying and beginning their families and lives together; go back another 50 years to the late 1800's/early 1900's, and the ages drop to 16/17 with the age of consent in most US aeas 14 or even 13. (Can jump it back to ancient times of Biblical era and it's 12/13, but one reason is the average life span was late 20's). The difference between then and now is then both boys and girls were taught as soon as they could walk the minimum skills of being able to cook, keep house, and take care of babies). Today, I know many in their 30's that are mere children in their attitudes, and life is one day after another of play.
Sometimes I think US social institutions are intentionally set up to delay adulthood since that way they are under government control via the schhol system, and are taught to depend on anything or anyone except themselves.
My parents married in 1942 at 17 with dad going to war, both sets of grandparents were married at 16 before they immigrated to America (dad's Irish in 1893, and mom's Scot Highlanders in 1897).
I knew exactly what I wanted at 17 as a career, and a month before my 18th birthday, I found the woman I still believe was The One God had made just for me; and at 16, she thought the same for 2 years as I studied at college. It did not happen (too long a story), and that loss set in motion a completely new path for me, and for her.
Life is a continual learning process, and it oftens demands the courage to act on blind faith and trust in people and knowing that God will keep you from total destruction along the way.
Beginning next year I am starting a completely different to the path of my life, one I unknowingly prepared my entire life for: it is both exciting and frightening at once, as any change is.
All we can do is try to live as best as we can by our beliefs and let God's plan unfold.
Be patient for the healing and be patient for when God opens up the path of your life.
*Rick*
But God is healing me. He's very pacient.
Thanks,brother. There's still so much I can't share. Those are still too difficult...
There's also other flashbacks I have, I just don't understand what was happening.
I think many of your AAG friends definitely would say you are healing: you have opened up and are facing the things that are bothering you, and you are not afraid to reach out for advice and above all to ask God for help. I think also you are beginning to realize what "she said" "or what she did to me" is not important, but that what you say and do is. You are beginning to look into the mirror and see yourself, not someone else. Keep praying and fighting!
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