Hi Tokey. I just joined this group and read your post on trying to be more forgiving. I struggle with this as well, especially this year, because some of my family members showed an incredibly greedy and selfish side that I didn't know existed. I feel guilty for not forgiving them because they are my family, but all I think about is how hurtful they were. What helps me is to start thinking about how I've done some pretty selfish things in the past, and yet Jesus was willing to forgive me. And I also think about how Jesus endured being publicly humiliated and tortured, knowing full well that He was the righteous one, and they were wrong. And yet he still begged God to forgive them. I cry when I think of that and it makes me ask myself, how can I possibly hold a grudge, no matter how much it hurt me, because I could never endure pain the way Christ did and still be willing to forgive his offenders. I've come to realize that it is my pride and ego that get in the way of me forgiving. Also, I remind myself that what happened was God's will, and whether I understand it or not, I know He will only bring good out of the situation eventually. I have to be patient and trust in His justice. I also have to keep reminding myself that it is not my job to judge what others have done, even if it hurt me. I hope you are able to heal, because that burning feeling of not wanting to forgive can eat you away. And God wants more for you than that. May God bless you and help you find the strength and wisdom to forgive.

hello tokey. i hope you're okey.

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