As a submissive wife, you aught to humble yourself to God and to your hubby.
Don't say, ah he did this to me so am I to him. No! Woman should not act that way.
Woman have so much potentials! God have deposited potentials in us. As a woman, you are responsible to encourage your hubby whenever he is down and and to give him all your love. Yes your hubby aught to love you says the word of God but as a woman you aught to love him too.
The perfect expression of love is God kind of love.