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How can you teach your heart and your mind NOT to remember past hurts and pains?

Is there a specific technique that will help one erase memories of the past that bring down the spirit of healing and wellness? I have felt and received God's grace of healing and have felt that joy and peace He had promised to those who seek Him and delight in Him. I know I've been healed and have been delivered from the dark place I have stayed in for almost two years. My heart has been glad and grateful ever since that fateful day in October 2010 for the miraculous feeling of peace and unexplainable joy that was brought into my heart just as I've been seeking God's purpose in all the things happening in my life through His Word. I have been steadfast in my faith and I have proven God's faithfulness and love as my heart was given another chance to love and to feel loved. But the past couple of days have made me backslide from my focus on and vision of God's Will and Purpose for my life and for this love that I feel in my heart. Memories of past feelings and past events arise to shake my balance and make me question and doubt what God has already built in my life. Confusion clouds my thinking and understanding... it's a good thing my simple heart just chose to hang on to what has been promised by Him in His Word. I know the doubt is not due what is existing right now but stems from the past. I need to get over everything that emanates from it... insecurities, skepticism, distrust...etc. I've been told it's the enemy that would want to destroy what God has built to shake the faith of those who believe. I just want memories of the past to stop popping in my head causing me to feel bad and cry all over again as these memories make me re-live in my thoughts the events, the dialogues, the actions... which all have brought misery to my being. How can one make these things fade fast from memory?

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Permalink Reply by akua akuamoah-boateng on April 13, 2011 at 9:55am

Great topic for discussion. I have been thinking about this for quite sometime now. Folks, it is about the most difficult thing to do;especially where those responsible keep coming your way. But one thing is clear. As humans, we're limited in so many ways; including letting go off the past.

The only way we can teach ourherats and minds not to remember past hurts and pains, is to surrender all to JESUS, the all knowing GOD. He knows us well enough to equip us with what it takes to handle this situation.

God bless everyone who is hurting and yet finding it difficult to let go .

Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on April 13, 2011 at 11:33am

HI MACKY,

I KNOW WHAT U R SAYING, I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT AND HAS LONG AS U R ALIVE, U WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER, ''BUT IS HOW WE DEAL WITH IT, WE R NOT SOVERENIGN ,OUR THOUGHT R NOT OUR OWN.

SO ANYTHING THAT DONT EDIFIED U CHOP URSELF LOSE FROM IT, I LOST MY SON IN1999,MY HUSBAND IN2009, MY MOTHER IN2010 AND SOMETIMES MY MIND GO BACK THERE AND MY HEART HURT ,BUT THEN I REMEMBER I HAVE JESUS JESUS JESUS AND ALL HE AS DONE AND IS STILL DOING FOR ME ,I ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT HE DID FOR ME 2000 YEARS AGO AND NOTHING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN TO US CAN BE COMPARE TO WHAT HE DID.

SO WHENEVER THE devil TRY TO GET IN UR THOUGH JUST REMEMBER (2 CORINTHIANS 10-5).

CASTING DOWN IMAGINATIONS, AND EVERY HIGHTHING THAT EXALTETH ITSELF AGAINST THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOD, AND BRINGING INTO CAPTIVITY EVERY THOUGHT TO THE OBEDIENCE, OF CHRIST.

JESUS LOVES U , I LOVE U ,THE devil DONT LIKE US SO DONT LET HIM GET U DOWN USE WORDS AND GET RID OF HIM,IN JESUS NAME.

LUV U

Permalink Reply by MYu on April 14, 2011 at 8:25am

akua, robbin, and shyleejan,

Thanks so much for your responses... it's really just a matter of trusting in the Lord with all your heart is it? Lifting everything to Him that weighs us down in mind and spirit and seeking His Word to gain the strength and the wisdom to resist the work of the enemy. Thank you! I value your words! Love to you all! God bless!

Permalink Reply by akua akuamoah-boateng on April 18, 2011 at 6:29am

God bless you too.

Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on April 18, 2011 at 9:34pm

thank u for accepting GOD'S word

Permalink Reply by oliver on April 16, 2011 at 11:52pm

I was in the same situation, also last October 2010 I received God and Lord Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour, you are correct that the enemy always tyring to shaken us to let go of our faith. Until now I'm trying to stop thinking what was happen in my past and got to move on with my life. I was a victim of jelousy which in turn I made a wrong, a very wrong decision. I confessed it to our Lord and I know He will forgive me (1 John 1:9). Now I'm holding on to the faith our God has built for me. I know He will never let me go....God will help me to conquer all the pain, I know He's with me all the time, all the days of my life here on earth. He is the one who will Love me and will never let me go. Thank you for the LOVE my Lord my GOD...

Permalink Reply by MYu on June 23, 2011 at 8:00pm

What a great place to be... feeling and knowing that God is with you all the time and that He will never let you go. Keep that grip on your faith! Thanks for sharing. (",)

Permalink Reply by Mary Ruth Zacheriah on April 29, 2011 at 8:01pm

Sometimes it just hurts so much. There is so much pain from my childhood that I didn't realized existed until my mother died and then little by little it started to consume me. I am in a women's group at my church where we talk out things like this. At times it will seem like open heart surgery without anesthesia, but what God brings to the light from the darkness He can heal if we let Him.

Permalink Reply by MYu on May 26, 2011 at 6:20am

Mary Ruth,

I know about the feeling of recalling something... an incident, an exchange of words, a gesture or an act that could literary make you feel like something is slicing your heart or your gut. Then for a moment, the world freezes and all your attention focuses on this pain... until only by God's grace you get snapped out of it and your consciousness regain normalcy.

Permalink Reply by Ruel Z Chavez on May 25, 2011 at 3:29am

Hi everyone! Just want to share my personal journey in dealing with past hurts and pains...In personal development, the control of the mind is so important for it has power to influence the condition of our emotion. When we feel lonely, it is because we are thinking of lonely things. When we suffer emotional pain, it is because we think of a painful event, painful words, or painful relationships. And if our emotion will stay in such condition because of what we think, our actions too will be affected. We tend to be passive and we lose interest in the things we do and these will determine results in our lives. So the key is to choose our thoughts.

I personally believe that choosing to think about the power of the CROSS is so important to teach our heart and mind to be free from past hurts and pains. There at the CROSS, Jesus carried all the pains caused by betrayal, infidelity, lies, etc...Jesus through His grace flowing from the CROSS wants us, His friends, followers and members of His family to live in love, joy, peace, and freedom...Of course, this does not mean that all the struggles will be gone permanently. As long as we are in this life, there are times that those painful memories will flash back into our minds. Relying on His grace, let us just strive to learn to find our satisfaction in Him moment by moment better than anything else this world has to offer. Remember Joseph, the presence of God in his life gave him the strength to overcome all his sufferings - betrayal by his brothers, reduction to zero economic value (sold as a slave), victim of fabricated story and false accusation (by Potiphar's wife), isolation from his beloved father and brother (Jacob and Benjamin), and unjust imprisonment.

How can you teach your heart and your mind NOT to remember past hurts and pains?

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