Repressed Feelings & Emotions = Emotional Distress

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Permalink Reply by Maggie Flagg on December 22, 2009 at 12:58pm

Wow Gayla, I too struggle with anger. Only when I'm hurt emotionally though. I give and try with one particular person in my life and he just can't give me any of his time. It hurts alot, because all I do is try to be loving and kind and I keep getting beat down emotionally by this man. For some reason I don't understand I haven't been able to just walk out of his life. So I cry and get it all out that way. My flesh wants to say awful things to hurt him back, but I know that is not what God wants me to do. I try so hard to be loving and kind and it does me no good with this man. I know your asking why do I remain in his life? My only answer is, I'm trying to get through to him with God's love. I am really close to just saying no more!!! I have prayed for God to remove him from my life if thats his will. So far that hasn't happened. I have not contacted him for a while, then the writes and tells me about his health scare and I don't understand why. So, I just keep praying for him and loving him as Christ does for me. Anyway, I am happy most of the time until he hurts me again. Then the anger gets the better of me, but I don't sin in it, I just cry. Crying helps alot. I try then to think of how much God loves me and stuff the anger back again. I wish God would just take the anger away. Anger comes from my heart hurting emotionally. I just keep praying. Thank you so much for your letter. Merry Christmas!!! God Bless you and yours.....Maggie

Permalink Reply by Bob Bennett on December 22, 2009 at 5:34pm

You are so right on, Gayla, with what you shared. Anger, unforgiveness, shame, rejection, deep hurt, etc are all part of the package when it comes to clinical depression.

There is excellent new ahead. Jesus alone does heal of clinical depression. I am living proof. The Lord has now called me into ministry to help hurting and depressed people, especially Christians. All I am to do is point them to HIM.

That is what I want to do for you, Sister, and anyone else reading this. Jesus healed me of severe depression by using the Word of God - seeing life through His eyes. It took time, but the victory is there. The depression I had was for most of my life, including 17 years as a born again Christian. The last 14 years have been a victorious walk.

That's all I'll share for you here, but will point you to many outlets I have on the internet where you can read and listen to my testimony and my teaching on it now.

www.LifeUnderGrace.com - my website. There is a mini-testimony, a video interview, and other links that I use to share this victory. Here are more of them.
www.Facebook.com/LifeUnderGrace - - also here is a page I created specifically called VICTORY OVER DEPRESSION.
www.Twitter.com/LifeUnderGrace
www.BlogTalkRadio.com/LifeUnderGrace - This is by far the most valuable. It is my weekly internet radio show VICTORY IN JESUS CHRIST. For the last five weeks (beg 11/23), I am doing a teaching series called VICTORY OVER DEPRESSION. The first two shows actually are my testimony. You can replay or download these shows at anytime. The shows will be continuing for a few more weeks.

God bless you.
Bob Bennett

Permalink Reply by Gayla on April 13, 2010 at 7:03am

Oh Maggie.. your situation is sooooo like mine. I am so sorry that you are hurting... and would like very much to tell you that God took into his hands what I was not able to do for myself. I too, shed many tears over this situation, and I know from Gods word that he bottles our tears... Is that not the most precious thing you ever heard??? I simply love knowing that is true..and think on it, often, when tears come. Tears are liquid prayers, I believe.... and touch the heart of the Father.

My husband of 36 years, left about 6 mos. ago, and when he did, the depression began to lift. He had many unresolved issues from childhood, that he was not willing to deal with, and they were causing problems in our marriage. Communication had completely disappeared, and could not be established again. It is impossible for two people to be one, without communition.

I think, based on looking back, over the last few years, that he had been wanting out of the marriage, for some time, yet, he was unwilling to make a move, and was doing things to cause me to take the iniative, however, I was unwilling to do that, as all I wanted was my marriage fixed....and workable.

Now that we are apart, I have been working thru the pain and loss that I felt concerning this, and I am at peace with myself, and the situation. We are talking and have a surface relationship, so I will content myself with that. We are working toward a divorce, as this is what he wanted, and I have come to accept this as Gods will for us.

When we married, we did not seek God for his direction, in fact, God was not even part of the equation, as he was not active in our lives at the time.

I believe that he has a perfect mate for each of us, but, in order to find that mate, we must seek him, concerning it. How many of us, have been taught to do that? And properly prepared for marriage? Not many... and those who have, are blessed indeed, as there is no glory or joy when a union between two people comes to an end. There is usually nothing but pain, and more pain, until the healing process kicks in, and acceptance, and then finally being able to move on.

I would like to pray for you, that you would have Gods wisdom and direction in this matter.

Father God,
I thank you so much for being a part of our lives, and for giving us wisdom in all our affairs. Lord, I do not believe that it is your will for Maggie to suffer, the way that she is, over this relationship. I pray that you will move in her situation, bringing relief, and delivering her from this torment. Thank You Lord, for what you are willing to do for her. Amen.

God be with you.... and let me know how things come out.....

Blessings...

Permalink Reply by Dee Ramos on May 30, 2010 at 5:09pm

GOOD INSITE AND WRITING HERE GAYLA. WE CAN ONLY CHANGE OURSELVES WE CANT CHANGE ANYONE ELSE. BUT SEPARATIONS THAT CANNOT BE REPAIRED WHERE TWO PEOPLE ARE WILLING CAN BE PAINFUL BUT TIME DOES HEAL.
FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE.

Permalink Reply by Annie on May 26, 2010 at 6:23am

Hi I'm new here and I need to talk to someone about the anger that is welling up inside of me. How can others feel justified in fabricating lies about another to cover their own sins or crimes, and not caring that thier lies can destroy another's life? I don't know why and I am unable to explain why, maybe someone here can help me see what I'm doing wrong. To go into all the details would take the rest of my life so I will try to keep this brief as I can. Since I was small I was punished for showing any emotion, even to cry as a child, not verbal scolding but physical.As a woman, the same thing happened. As a wife 'The same', As a mother 'similar but verbal' My children grew up watching me be abused and abandoned and now they do the same to me when I have a veiw point or even wanto share Jesus with them. I have 4 grown kids and 2 of them treat me pretty awful. And it's because I tried to protect one of my grandkids from being abused. By calling authourities on one of my daughter's boyfriend. Now she has told me my grandson hates me. He is 7yrs old. I've been trying to keep him safe for 5 yrs now. I'm the only one he tells these horiffic stories to and I cant ignore them. I can't turn my back on him. But my daughter hates me for it and defends the boyfirend 'Gary'. The past 5yrs have been so hard for me and I pray alot and read God's word many times a day. But I feel I'm falling under the burden of all this pain. I have no self asteem left. I'm becoming recluse, afraid to even atten church. People are so cruel and this is the only place I feel I can come without judgement and feel safe.. I tell myself everyday, God is in control but I don't think he is because I can give him all my problems, fears etc but before the day is done, I have taken them back from God to worry about all over again. I'm so pathetic. My kids have totally broken my heart and I don't see nothing ahead for me but more pain. My neighbour is trying to drive me out of my home 'LONG STORY'.. I'm in government housing for disabled, wheelchair access and this woman wanted my unit but is not in chair herself. I have spinal injuries and can't use steps. Housing have all my medical reports and that why I was given this unit. This has been going on for over 12 mths. steel my mail, break into my home, punch me, and more. I honestly have kept to myself and humbel through it all, without saying a word, I felt it time to write housing and yet they did nothing. I wanted 'mediation' so to try to end this once and for all so I can live in peace as I'm so unwell physically, which is not helping emotionally.I feel I can'tgo on most days lately as it's all exausted me. She came to my door under the pretence of wanting to end this terrible thing she started but soon as she got foot into my home she began yelling and swearing at me. She is trying to discredit me to force me out because I have no intentions of running. I'm too sick to move anyway. So after explaining this I just wish to ask if prayers could be lifted to the Lord to help me. I just wanto go to sleep and not wake up right now. I'm in alot of pain in my spine and legs, and that alone is more than I can take right now. No one seems to care about my suffering, I feel like a lamb to the slaughter. I'm also wondering why God allows such abuse to go so far, I don't see this bringing 'Glory to him'.. While I'm writing this I'm so tired so I hope it all makes sense.. Someone please tell me what I'm missing here and doing wrong.. Thankyou. Annie

Permalink Reply by Jill Russell on June 14, 2010 at 4:06pm

Simple, but true: The ONLY way to win is not to play. Don't participate one iota in their actions or words and pretty soon they will tire of throwing mudbombs and realize there is no reciprocation. Trust me. Don't play. You can think of ten reasons why it's "unavoidable" but try to challenge yourself in ways to not respond. The fun is in watching them react to your non-reacting.

Permalink Reply by Bible Sword Words on July 14, 2010 at 8:14am

Persecution, attacking the weak, hurting the poor are all hated by God and He will bring retribution on that lady and others. Get a restraining order against her. Find some people who will support you and be witnesses, call the police when something happens. Sometimes we feel helpless like Job, because we are helpless and we must go through a terrible trial. Love God no matter what. Good luck and we'll pray for you...

Permalink Reply by Dee Ramos on May 30, 2010 at 5:00pm

GOOD POST ON DEPRESSION, WHICH COMES IN DIFFERENT FORMS, AND I BELIEVE WE ALL GO THROUGH DEPRESSION AT TIMES. THANK YOU FOR THIS INFORMATION GREAT TEACHING
SIS DEE

Permalink Reply by Jill Russell on June 14, 2010 at 4:02pm

I've learned one thing: Forgiveness is the key to releasing anger. I had to make a decision to forgive two people in my life that hurt me badly. Every time I began to think ugly thoughts or feel the anger return, I would remind myself that I have already forgiven that person. That stopped the negative emotions in their tracks. I am learning that feelings are not as important as walking in the Spirit. I pray I will practice that statement more often in the future.