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Those Christians who are facing separation, divorce, or loss of a spouse need love and care from their brothers and sister in Christ during this time of crisis in there lives. If one part of the body is hurt we all are hurt.
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I do know the place where you are at right now, because I have been there. Without going through all the details of my experience I want you to know that because you have come to this net. You are not alone in your suffering anymore. I know how hard it is to allow others to help you when you have been so wounded. You do not need me or any one to fix this problem right now, all you need to know is that someone cares about you. I remember the day my Pastor came to my house, just set with me half a day, and cried with me. I kept listening to this song by Keri Jobe that helped me make it through my pain.
It didn’t turn out the way I thought it would after almost 4 years now.
Am I back in my marriage? No. The divorce will be final this week.
Is there life after separation, divorce or the loss of a spouse? Yes!
But you can’t deal with it alone. You need some one to help you find a way through the maze of grief, and sorrow that some one goes through with any loss. Stand no more alone and find some support for yourself that you need so desperately.
Know that I will, and others here will pray that God will lead you to those who will help. God can handle your anger and disappointment and your grief. He is a very present help in time of need.
Maybe you are reading this and your heart is broken, you are feeling lost, and have lost your hope.
I pray that you might just share your story here and allow God to minister to you though others who love the Lord and have a compassionate heart. I realize through my own experience that I needed the members of the Body of Christ to help me in this journey.
My motto has become: STAND NO MORE ALONE.
Discussion Forum
Living in fear and trying to do God's will
Started by Jay David Sims. Last reply by Jay David Sims Jul 10, 2013. 2 Replies 2 Likes
I am recently separated as well. I was a heavy drinker. In may, I put myself into a treatment center. I had reached a level of deep shame. I was verbally abusive and a very angry drunk. I often was…Continue
I'd be drowning by now if it wasn't for God picking me up and carrying me.
Started by James Saldana. Last reply by Ruel Z Chavez May 7, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like
My wife said she wants a divorce. I know that i have failed to show her how much she has meant to me after 17 years of marriage a lot of the times. i know that i have not been the husband to her and…Continue
God Will... Bring you Thru.
Started by Gayla Mar 6, 2011. 0 Replies 1 Like
As someone who has gone thru many struggles in life, oftentimes longing for the end of a certain situation that I was experiencing at the moment, I can say of a surety that "God... will bring you…Continue
Going through Divorced :-(
Started by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz. Last reply by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz Feb 9, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like
My husband of 18 1/2 years walked out on me and my girls. It has been very painful to me as his wife but also as the mother of our children because I get to see the pain and rebellion they are going…Continue
Now what?
Started by Stephen Sadousky. Last reply by Soldier Feb 9, 2011. 1 Reply 0 Likes
I'll put this out there to see what is what.Not really sure what happens now,but ,I guess that sometimes things have to end so new beginnings can start.I find myself facing divorce,and have been…Continue
Been about 4 months since my wife filed for separation/divorce
Started by Leo. Last reply by Leo Oct 20, 2010. 3 Replies 0 Likes
We have had our rough times and had some good times. We have three of the biggest blessings God can betstow on us, three beautiful boys. We got married young but decided we'd tackle life together and…Continue
Need your prayers. I'm just so angry.
Started by Leo. Last reply by Soldier Oct 4, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Yesterday, I had to take my boys back to their moms and I won't get to see them for like 5 or 6 months. I am not an angry person but this has just done it to me. I am so angry at my wife for doing…Continue
Help when you experience loss
Started by Gayla. Last reply by marcoe corpuz Sep 28, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Loss can touch our lives at any time, and sometimes it can be devastating. We can be assured that God is right there with us, in whatever pain we are currently experiencing, helping us to cope with…Continue
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Newly Divorced
Started by Teresa. Last reply by Soldier Aug 23, 2010. 2 Replies 0 Likes
I'm newly divorced and it sucks. My husband wanted the divorce, said he wasnt happy, that I was mean to him and had a bad attitude. There were some other issues as well. We moved to Hawaii last…Continue
Dealing with loss and grief
Started by Pastor Bob B. Last reply by Pastor Bob B May 6, 2010. 16 Replies 0 Likes
To One in SorrowLet me come in where you are weeping, friend,And let me take your hand.I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in…Continue
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Comment by Pastor Bob B on March 23, 2010 at 7:43pm
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It's a better place
Standing high upon this mountain
I've seen your face
Full of the light that only this height can show
A blistered hand is what you've given
But you've been given all you'll ever need to know
So walk down this mountain
With your heart held high
Follow in the footsteps of your make
With this love that's gone before you
And these people at your side
If you offer up your broken cup
You will taste the meaning of this life
It's a common ground
And I see we're all still standing
Just look around and you'll find
The very face of God
He's walking down into the distance
He's walking down to where the masses are
So walk down this mountain
With your heart held high
Follow in the footsteps of your make
With this love that's gone before you
And these people at your side
If you offer up your broken cup
You will taste the meaning of this life
We're standing in a place of peace
But this is how the world should be
How the world should be
(Walk down this mountain with your heart held high)
How the world should be
(Walk down this mountain with you heart held high)
How the world should be
(Walk down this mountain with your heart held high)
How the world should be
So walk down this mountain
With your heart held high
Follow in the footsteps of your make
With this love that's gone before you
And these people at your side
If you offer up your broken cup
You will taste the meaning of this life
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Lebo I think there are many here in the group who can fully understand the ache of loneliness. We have a promise from the Word of God that He gives families to the lonely. I know when I was separated from my wife after 25 years of marriage, 4 years ago that for maybe the first time in my life I felt the ache of loneliness. I had to be very pro-active in dealing with it. I joined a gym, I went to a support group, I got counselling, I planted myself in a good church.
The worst thing we can do is fall into self pity which isolates us more compounding the problem. I ended up divorced, but I for the most part don't feel that loneliness like I did back then. I know that only God can fill that void and that as I am growing to know Him more, then I will have relationships with others that are more about me giving than receiving from them.
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We all need to remember Joseph and how he handled betrayal and rejection from his family. He did not know the day he woke that that day he would go from a prison to a palace, he did not know until it took place, but we know from the account that he did not allow bitterness to consume his soul. I wonder if the the story would have turned out very differently if Joseph had become in bittered.
We who have had our spouses betray us, reject us and treat us like Joseph's brothers did are in danger of becoming bitter. Each of us have to seek out the support and help that God will provide for us as we are trying to work through the intense emotions associated with betrayal and rejection.
So listen to the word of this song of hope and how God can help us day by day.
A new day has...come
I was waiting for so long
For a miracle to come
Everyone told me to be strong
Hold on and don't shed a tear
Through the darkness and good times
I knew I'd make it through
And the world thought I had it all
But I was waiting for you
Hush, love
I see a light in the sky
Oh, it's almost blinding me
I can't believe
I've been touched by an angel with love
Let the rain come down and wash away my tears
Let it fill my soul and drown my fears
Let it shatter the walls for a new, new sun
A new day has...come
Where it was dark now there's light
Where there was pain now there's joy
Where there was weakness, I found my strength
All in the eyes of a boy
Hush, love
I see a light in the sky
Oh, it's almost blinding me
I can't believe
I've been touched by an angel with love
Let the rain come down and wash away my tears
Let it fill my soul and drown my fears
Let it shatter the walls for a new, new sun
A new day has...come
A new day has...come
Ohhh, a light... OOh
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Comment by Catherine K on March 15, 2010 at 6:47pm
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Frances,
I am so sorry to hear that your husband has abandoned you and your children. I pray that God will continue to give you grace during this difficult time in your life. I am glad that God led you here so that you might find support. Please know that there are those here who will relate to what you are going through and will be able to share with you how God helped them.
He loves you and is a very present help in our time of need.
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Comment by Frances Olguin Langford on March 15, 2010 at 8:31am
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My husband left me a month ago and said he wasn't happy right out the blue didn't see it coming,I miss him and pray that he comes home,I am reading Gods word and staying faithful to my husband while he's living in the world.Please pray my children and my marriage..
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COMFORTED AND CONSOLED
by Robert Bushman
“Then all his brothers and all his sisters and all who had known him before came to him, and they ate bread with him in his house; and they consoled him and comforted him for all the adversities that the LORD had brought on him. And each one gave him one piece of money, and each a ring of gold.” ( Job 42:11 NAS )
COMFORTED AND CONSOLED BY FAMILY AND FRIENDS
The first thing to note about this story is that the occasion that is described here is a family gathering. Job's brothers and sisters and all his friends who had known him before are getting together. By this time Job is a seventy-year-old man or even older, and though his own children had all perished, he could have had grandchildren and great-grandchildren by now.
Job's family and friends gathered to comfort him and to express sympathy and understanding for all the pain and suffering he had been going through.
My uncle had an accident recently, and he was paralyzed. His town got together with his family and had a community dinner and collected money to help do some work on their home( to widen front door, add a wheel chair ramp)so he would be able to return to his home. This was the same kind of compassionate help that Job's family was doing for him. This act of love must have blessed God's heart.
These friends and family members gave to Job gifts of silver and gold. In the Bible these two metals are used symbolically as a picture of redemption. Silver is the sign of redemption, and gold is the picture of Deity; God redeeming His people.
CALLED TO COMFORT AND CONSOLE
Let us beware of the mistakes that Job's three friends made and were rebuked of God. It is not our place to stand as judges over one another when some one is going through trials. They might, or might not be responsible. Our Job is to bring God redeeming love into the situation.
Our God is a God of restoration. Many of His plans, purposes, and great works deal with the process of restoring. The whole purpose of the life of Jesus Christ here on earth, and especially His death and resurrection, was one of restoration.
Jesus didn't just restore us to relationship with God, His work of restoration was much more profound than that; it reached every area of every life of those who have accepted Him as Lord. According to the dictionary, the word "restore" means "return to its original condition."
“So the LORD blessed the latter end of Job more than his beginning: for he had fourteen thousand sheep, and six thousand camels, and a thousand yoke of oxen, and a thousand she asses. 13 He had also seven sons and three daughters.” (Job 42:12-13)
Job's restoration, began with God, then with the comfort and consolation from his family and friends. We are all part Gods plan of restoration in others lives. This is our greatest ministry, the ministry of reconciling others to God.
“Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation.” ( 2 Corinthians 5:18 )
THE COMFORTER AND Consoler
As part of God's plan of restoration, which He wrought through Jesus Christ, we now have the Holy Spirit( The comforter ) to be our teacher, comforter, and guide. We have the Holy Spirit available to us, it's part of the restoration work of Christ.
“But when the Comforter is come, whom I will send unto you from the Father, even the Spirit of truth, which proceedeth from the Father, he shall testify of me:”(John 14:26 )
But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. (John 15:26 )
Conclusion
So in conclusion, we have a calling in our lives to be part of Gods comforting and consoling ministry for our family and friends, and to a lost and hurting world.. God is in the restoration business, and we can be a part of it if we will live our lives as restorers, instead of judges.
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