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Separated, Divorced, or loss of a spouse support net.

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Those Christians who are facing separation, divorce, or loss of a spouse need love and care from their brothers and sister in Christ during this time of crisis in there lives. If one part of the body is hurt we all are hurt.

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I wanted to put a comment here that I left for a young man who had just separated and was in real anguish. When I looked at his picture on his page and looked into his eyes, I saw the same pain there that I saw in my own eyes when I faced separation after 25 years of marriage. I hope to make this group a real source of support for those who are in this position that most of us never dreamed of being in, and then found our selves there anyway.
This is the post.
I do know the place where you are at right now, because I have been there. Without going through all the details of my experience I want you to know that because you have come to this net. You are not alone in your suffering anymore. I know how hard it is to allow others to help you when you have been so wounded. You do not need me or any one to fix this problem right now, all you need to know is that someone cares about you. I remember the day my Pastor came to my house, just set with me half a day, and cried with me. I kept listening to this song by Keri Jobe that helped me make it through my pain.

It didn’t turn out the way I thought it would after almost 4 years now.
Am I back in my marriage? No. The divorce will be final this week.

Is there life after separation, divorce or the loss of a spouse? Yes!
But you can’t deal with it alone. You need some one to help you find a way through the maze of grief, and sorrow that some one goes through with any loss. Stand no more alone and find some support for yourself that you need so desperately.

Know that I will, and others here will pray that God will lead you to those who will help. God can handle your anger and disappointment and your grief. He is a very present help in time of need.

Maybe you are reading this and your heart is broken, you are feeling lost, and have lost your hope.

I pray that you might just share your story here and allow God to minister to you though others who love the Lord and have a compassionate heart. I realize through my own experience that I needed the members of the Body of Christ to help me in this journey.
My motto has become: STAND NO MORE ALONE.

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Living in fear and trying to do God's will

Started by Jay David Sims. Last reply by Jay David Sims Jul 10, 2013. 2 Replies 2 Likes

I am recently separated as well. I was a heavy drinker. In may, I put myself into a treatment center. I had reached a level of deep shame. I was verbally abusive and a very angry drunk. I often was…Continue

I'd be drowning by now if it wasn't for God picking me up and carrying me.

Started by James Saldana. Last reply by Ruel Z Chavez May 7, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like

My wife said she wants a divorce. I know that i have failed to show her how much she has meant to me after 17 years of marriage a lot of the times. i know that i have not been the husband to her and…Continue

God Will... Bring you Thru.

Started by Gayla Mar 6, 2011. 0 Replies 1 Like

As someone who has gone thru many struggles in life, oftentimes longing for the end of a certain situation that I was experiencing at the moment, I can say of a surety that "God... will bring you…Continue

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Going through Divorced :-(

Started by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz. Last reply by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz Feb 9, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like

My husband of 18 1/2 years walked out on me and my girls. It has been very painful to me as his wife but also as the mother of our children because I get to see the pain and rebellion they are going…Continue

Now what?

Started by Stephen Sadousky. Last reply by Soldier Feb 9, 2011. 1 Reply 0 Likes

I'll put this out there to see what is what.Not really sure what happens now,but ,I guess that sometimes things have to end so new beginnings can start.I find myself facing divorce,and have been…Continue

Been about 4 months since my wife filed for separation/divorce

Started by Leo. Last reply by Leo Oct 20, 2010. 3 Replies 0 Likes

We have had our rough times and had some good times. We have three of the biggest blessings God can betstow on us, three beautiful boys. We got married young but decided we'd tackle life together and…Continue

Need your prayers. I'm just so angry.

Started by Leo. Last reply by Soldier Oct 4, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes

Yesterday, I had to take my boys back to their moms and I won't get to see them for like 5 or 6 months. I am not an angry person but this has just done it to me. I am so angry at my wife for doing…Continue

Help when you experience loss

Started by Gayla. Last reply by marcoe corpuz Sep 28, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes

Loss can touch our lives at any time, and sometimes it can be devastating. We can be assured that God is right there with us, in whatever pain we are currently experiencing, helping us to cope with…Continue

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Newly Divorced

Started by Teresa. Last reply by Soldier Aug 23, 2010. 2 Replies 0 Likes

I'm newly divorced and it sucks. My husband wanted the divorce, said he wasnt happy, that I was mean to him and had a bad attitude. There were some other issues as well. We moved to Hawaii last…Continue

Dealing with loss and grief

Started by Pastor Bob B. Last reply by Pastor Bob B May 6, 2010. 16 Replies 0 Likes

To One in SorrowLet me come in where you are weeping, friend,And let me take your hand.I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in…Continue

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Comment by Pastor Bob B on April 19, 2010 at 6:56am

Comment by Pastor Bob B on March 25, 2010 at 10:13am: Dear Brother George thanks for sharing your testimony which is mine also. After 4 years of separation I too became divorced. I wanted to blame, defend, retaliate, you name it, but in the end i had to put it all in God's hands and allow Him to show me that He can also cause this thing to work out for the good so that I might be conformed to the image of Christ. (Rom. 8:28-29)

Comment by George Trujillo on March 25, 2010 at 8:32am: I finally came to a point in my life that divorce really happened, whether the blame is from the other person or myself?- If we stop to think about what happened, you will find that both persons have equal blame. (forgive me Lord for my part in the seperation), During the time of trying to figue out how to commit suicide with-out going to hell; i found out through the Holy Spirit of God, that God allows a person to be loved for a season, and all of sudden that love is gone. Why? Because, if we are His children, He has already pre-determined for both involved, to bless both man and women fo a bettor more productive life through what Jesus died for. God did not cause divorce, we with our own way of thought and and action produce this action. So, divorce did happen. I myself, clear out of blue ,so to speak, realized that God is steadfast into raising me to higher level of life, if I but put all that happened under the feet of Jesus. Then, I know that I know that there is a far greater life, which He has blessed me with. this started, when i decided to climb the next rung of the ladder of my life, everything became clear. Altough we went through loneliness and the many things of trying figure out Why, Why?; it is a necessary proccess for growth. Don't stop CLIMB. Jorge

Comment by Pastor Bob B on March 25, 2010 at 7:43am: John read through the comments here in this group so you can see how others have dealt with these hard issues. It is time to press into the Lord so you can find him to be a very present help in time of need. Patience is something we have to work at, but we have a helper, The Holy Spirit who is like a coach who will encourage us and strengthen us. So I pray that the Holy Spirit will teach you about the way to deal with your situation. It is not easy, none of it! God knows this and I know He will help you.

Comment by john bailey on March 25, 2010 at 7:27am: Thanks Bob. How do I do that. I talk and pray to him everyday. I admit I turned away from my faith a couple of years ago and now I am back. Also patience has never been one of my strong suits. How do I discern what he is saying to me. Its so obvious that Satan is whispering bad things to me and trying to plant bad thoughts in my mind but I am having a hard time hearing what God is saying to me even though I feel I'm trying really hard to listen

Comment by Pastor Bob B on March 25, 2010 at 7:14am: John this is where the rubber hits the road for you. You need to spend time with the Lord getting that gaping wound in my heart for my wife healed. At this point the damage has been done and even if you reconciled with her today, the wound would be present.

I spent half my day with a group of men trying with all our hearts to help a brother with 5 children who has been separated for 2 years come to a point where he can be honest about his heart condition that is filled with resentment toward his wife for all that she has done to him.

I love this brother so much and know that only as he unwraps these resentments and allows the Holy Spirit to cleanse them will he ever have a chance to salvage his family. You see that even if your wife never changes, and your marriage ends, you must find the freedom and grace from the Lord to go on.

If you do not allow God to do the deep work in your life, then you will find yourself stuck and unable to go forth in your life with the Lord.

Comment by john bailey on March 24, 2010 at 6:59pm: Thank you so much Bob. I am grateful for the prayers. I met with her tonight and she said it was over. I just cannot accept that and I will continue to pray that God will open her heart back up towards me and us. I am blessed with great family and friends but there is still this gaping wound in my heart for my wife

Comment by Pastor Bob B on March 24, 2010 at 4:39pm: john bailey my heart goes out to you. Please know that you have found a group of friends who will pray for you during this time. Some of us including myself have had our spouses leave us for the things of the world. I started this group because i knew there was very little out there to support those who were facing separation especially. You must not go through this alone, and do not pull away from those who love and care about you because you feel embarrassed about what has happened. I was married for 25 years when I became separated. i know about the loneliness, betrayal, anger, and hurt you are feeling right now.

All I can tell you is that God is with you, that there will be a better day, and that we are praying for you.

Comment by john bailey on March 24, 2010 at 3:16pm: Thank you Lebo. She believes in God but she doesn't go to church. It sure is painful. I pray everyday that God will restore us. I admit I made a lot of mistakes in the marriage however I have learned a great deal about how to be a better husband. I pray everyday that God will restore us.

Comment by john bailey on March 24, 2010 at 1:13pm: I need help. My wife and I separated 03-06-10. I love and miss her dearly and the pain that I feel is like nothing I have ever experienced. I call her everyday just to hear her voice which makes her angry at me. Yesterday she told me that the separation papers will be here in two weeks. I am so stressed. I'm always tired, can barely eat, cry all the time, and hate being alone. I cry out to God to help me but I sometimes feel he isn't listening. I believe but I feel like I am lacking faith. I so want my wife back but she seems to be enjoying her new lifestyle. I keep telling myself that it will get old soon. I just need help and prayer that God will change her heart about us

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