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Separated, Divorced, or loss of a spouse support net.

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Those Christians who are facing separation, divorce, or loss of a spouse need love and care from their brothers and sister in Christ during this time of crisis in there lives. If one part of the body is hurt we all are hurt.

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I wanted to put a comment here that I left for a young man who had just separated and was in real anguish. When I looked at his picture on his page and looked into his eyes, I saw the same pain there that I saw in my own eyes when I faced separation after 25 years of marriage. I hope to make this group a real source of support for those who are in this position that most of us never dreamed of being in, and then found our selves there anyway.
This is the post.
I do know the place where you are at right now, because I have been there. Without going through all the details of my experience I want you to know that because you have come to this net. You are not alone in your suffering anymore. I know how hard it is to allow others to help you when you have been so wounded. You do not need me or any one to fix this problem right now, all you need to know is that someone cares about you. I remember the day my Pastor came to my house, just set with me half a day, and cried with me. I kept listening to this song by Keri Jobe that helped me make it through my pain.

It didn’t turn out the way I thought it would after almost 4 years now.
Am I back in my marriage? No. The divorce will be final this week.

Is there life after separation, divorce or the loss of a spouse? Yes!
But you can’t deal with it alone. You need some one to help you find a way through the maze of grief, and sorrow that some one goes through with any loss. Stand no more alone and find some support for yourself that you need so desperately.

Know that I will, and others here will pray that God will lead you to those who will help. God can handle your anger and disappointment and your grief. He is a very present help in time of need.

Maybe you are reading this and your heart is broken, you are feeling lost, and have lost your hope.

I pray that you might just share your story here and allow God to minister to you though others who love the Lord and have a compassionate heart. I realize through my own experience that I needed the members of the Body of Christ to help me in this journey.
My motto has become: STAND NO MORE ALONE.

Discussion Forum

Living in fear and trying to do God's will

Started by Jay David Sims. Last reply by Jay David Sims Jul 10, 2013. 2 Replies 2 Likes

I am recently separated as well. I was a heavy drinker. In may, I put myself into a treatment center. I had reached a level of deep shame. I was verbally abusive and a very angry drunk. I often was…Continue

I'd be drowning by now if it wasn't for God picking me up and carrying me.

Started by James Saldana. Last reply by Ruel Z Chavez May 7, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like

My wife said she wants a divorce. I know that i have failed to show her how much she has meant to me after 17 years of marriage a lot of the times. i know that i have not been the husband to her and…Continue

God Will... Bring you Thru.

Started by Gayla Mar 6, 2011. 0 Replies 1 Like

As someone who has gone thru many struggles in life, oftentimes longing for the end of a certain situation that I was experiencing at the moment, I can say of a surety that "God... will bring you…Continue

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Going through Divorced :-(

Started by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz. Last reply by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz Feb 9, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like

My husband of 18 1/2 years walked out on me and my girls. It has been very painful to me as his wife but also as the mother of our children because I get to see the pain and rebellion they are going…Continue

Now what?

Started by Stephen Sadousky. Last reply by Soldier Feb 9, 2011. 1 Reply 0 Likes

I'll put this out there to see what is what.Not really sure what happens now,but ,I guess that sometimes things have to end so new beginnings can start.I find myself facing divorce,and have been…Continue

Been about 4 months since my wife filed for separation/divorce

Started by Leo. Last reply by Leo Oct 20, 2010. 3 Replies 0 Likes

We have had our rough times and had some good times. We have three of the biggest blessings God can betstow on us, three beautiful boys. We got married young but decided we'd tackle life together and…Continue

Need your prayers. I'm just so angry.

Started by Leo. Last reply by Soldier Oct 4, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes

Yesterday, I had to take my boys back to their moms and I won't get to see them for like 5 or 6 months. I am not an angry person but this has just done it to me. I am so angry at my wife for doing…Continue

Help when you experience loss

Started by Gayla. Last reply by marcoe corpuz Sep 28, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes

Loss can touch our lives at any time, and sometimes it can be devastating. We can be assured that God is right there with us, in whatever pain we are currently experiencing, helping us to cope with…Continue

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Newly Divorced

Started by Teresa. Last reply by Soldier Aug 23, 2010. 2 Replies 0 Likes

I'm newly divorced and it sucks. My husband wanted the divorce, said he wasnt happy, that I was mean to him and had a bad attitude. There were some other issues as well. We moved to Hawaii last…Continue

Dealing with loss and grief

Started by Pastor Bob B. Last reply by Pastor Bob B May 6, 2010. 16 Replies 0 Likes

To One in SorrowLet me come in where you are weeping, friend,And let me take your hand.I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in…Continue

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Comment by Rosemary Natasha on September 2, 2010 at 5:30am: Dear Bob, you have hit the nail on the head so to say. It was precisely what I had asked him at the beginning, in fact after the birth of our son Joshua. I asked him to make his choice - whether it would be our son and me OR his alchohol and without giving a straightforward reply he simply said he could not give up the bottle. So obviously he chose alcohol over the marriage commitment. I thought he would change as the child grew cos he would realise his responsibilities and duties, but how wrong I was. He, in fact, became worse and worse and it was clear there was no turning back for him.

But I am a very strong woman. God has given me immense inner strength. In fact my mom used to always ask me how I was able to cope and carry on.

I just don't have any sorrow in my heart where he is concerned. I don't miss him one bit. I am just so relieved he is out of my life and our home. Our home used to be a smelly one when he was living in it and now it smells nice, just like a normal home. There is no more worry of me coming back home from work and finding him drunk and misbehaving, no more fear on that count.

Praise God who has truly delivered me and you want to know something more God has blessed me with a new love in my life. He is my soulmate. I have never met him in real. We have become very special long distance friends. We both believe we are a gift to each other given by God Himself cos this gentleman has also gone through a painful divorce some 8-9 years ago and we met some time after my husband finally left. So I am happy with my newfound love knowing in my heart that he is the one for me, the one God Himself chose and kept all these years for me. God loves me so much that He not only relieved me from a loveless, horrible and painful marriage, but He also gifted me with someone who loves me so deeply.

Thank You Jesus! Thank you for all that You have done for me.

So Bob just pray for me that my divorce will come through smoothly and I will be free.

Comment by Pastor Bob B on September 2, 2010 at 4:52am: Rosemary our hearts go out to you. Your husband abandoned you and your marriage along time ago when he chose alcohol over the marriage commitment, and when he chose to abuse you.

It is not going to be easy for you to pull out from underneath all that you have endured, but God is with you and will bring you through the storm.

Comment by Rosemary Natasha on September 2, 2010 at 3:20am: This October we would have celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary, but it was not destined to be. I had been married to an absolute alcoholic for the past 16 years and some odd months. I tried everything to change him. He was not only an alcoholic, but an irresponsible, lazy man. We have a 16 yr old son and I bore up for so many years just so that we could live as a family. I believe in the concept of family life and I tried my best to keep it going, but no way was he co-operating. No amount of threats, advices, crying, examples of others or explanations worked on him. He just did what he wanted to do and that is drink and drink. He was never happy with us. He not only abused me mentally, but also physically and my level of tolerance was stretched. I couldn't take it any more. I cried and prayed to the Lord to deliver me from this torment and I believe that God did answer me cos I've finally got deliverance from my husband, that is, we are at the moment living separately and I am at peace. I have filed for divorce and the same is in progress. To be honest I have no regrets about losing him, but only one sad fact remains and that is our home is broken, something that I cherished and never imagined would happen.

Comment by Jacqueline Harris on September 1, 2010 at 11:27pm: I am not divorced or separated, but I understand the pain and anguish associated with this. We need to really show grace and mercy to those who are going through this. Like Bob said, when one part of the body hurts, we all hurt. The wounds need to heal. God is able to do this, and He desires us to be whole. We also need to pray for those who are going through this.

Comment by Pastor Bob B on August 31, 2010 at 6:59pm: Pastor Gonzalez it is so hard to hear about all that you are dealing with. God does tell us that abandonment is grounds for divorce. God hates divorce because of the suffering that takes place, but to not let go of the past and go on with your life is even worse for you and your children.

I pray God will bring a good man who loves God into your life, that will love you and your son.

Comment by Minister Kelli Koneful-Gonzalez on August 31, 2010 at 10:08am: My husband left and totally disappeared from me and our 3 yr old son's life 2 yrs ago. Our son will be 4 this September. I have no idea where he is or how to find him. It hurts b/c I want to get divorced to move on with my life and my little son so wants a father. It hurts him to see my 10 yr old daughter go visit her Dad, Aunts, Uncles, and Grandmother and he doesn't have any of those type of relatives. I only have 2 half brothers that never bother with me so really he doesn't have anyone. I'm deeply hurt inside more for him than myslef. We need closure.

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Comment by Pastor Bob B on April 27, 2010 at 3:59am: Hi PENNI HELMS,
I want you to know that we stand with you as you are working through your grief and loss. There will come a day when we will no longer have to expearence this kind of loss anymore.

Comment by PENNI HELMS on April 26, 2010 at 10:45pm: HI!!! my name is PENNI!!! I lost my precious husband (walt) 2 yrs ago this June 28.. my heart still skips a beat every time I think of him! he was soo sweet, precious, loving and caring for me, I am disabled... and live in severe pain all the time, he loved me so, and took care of ME! we were married 22 yrs! how i misssss him so! my heart still cries for him! my mind gets discouraged at times b/c I miss him so!!!! I am here to be prayed for and pray for others! GOD I give all the glory to for keeping me sane/alive each day! he is my helper, my hope@ salvation! I LOVE HIM SO!

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