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Separated, Divorced, or loss of a spouse support net.

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Those Christians who are facing separation, divorce, or loss of a spouse need love and care from their brothers and sister in Christ during this time of crisis in there lives. If one part of the body is hurt we all are hurt.

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I wanted to put a comment here that I left for a young man who had just separated and was in real anguish. When I looked at his picture on his page and looked into his eyes, I saw the same pain there that I saw in my own eyes when I faced separation after 25 years of marriage. I hope to make this group a real source of support for those who are in this position that most of us never dreamed of being in, and then found our selves there anyway.
This is the post.
I do know the place where you are at right now, because I have been there. Without going through all the details of my experience I want you to know that because you have come to this net. You are not alone in your suffering anymore. I know how hard it is to allow others to help you when you have been so wounded. You do not need me or any one to fix this problem right now, all you need to know is that someone cares about you. I remember the day my Pastor came to my house, just set with me half a day, and cried with me. I kept listening to this song by Keri Jobe that helped me make it through my pain.

It didn’t turn out the way I thought it would after almost 4 years now.
Am I back in my marriage? No. The divorce will be final this week.

Is there life after separation, divorce or the loss of a spouse? Yes!
But you can’t deal with it alone. You need some one to help you find a way through the maze of grief, and sorrow that some one goes through with any loss. Stand no more alone and find some support for yourself that you need so desperately.

Know that I will, and others here will pray that God will lead you to those who will help. God can handle your anger and disappointment and your grief. He is a very present help in time of need.

Maybe you are reading this and your heart is broken, you are feeling lost, and have lost your hope.

I pray that you might just share your story here and allow God to minister to you though others who love the Lord and have a compassionate heart. I realize through my own experience that I needed the members of the Body of Christ to help me in this journey.
My motto has become: STAND NO MORE ALONE.

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Started by Gayla Mar 6, 2011. 0 Replies 1 Like

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Going through Divorced :-(

Started by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz. Last reply by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz Feb 9, 2011. 4 Replies 1 Like

My husband of 18 1/2 years walked out on me and my girls. It has been very painful to me as his wife but also as the mother of our children because I get to see the pain and rebellion they are going…Continue

Now what?

Started by Stephen Sadousky. Last reply by Soldier Feb 9, 2011. 1 Reply 0 Likes

I'll put this out there to see what is what.Not really sure what happens now,but ,I guess that sometimes things have to end so new beginnings can start.I find myself facing divorce,and have been…Continue

Been about 4 months since my wife filed for separation/divorce

Started by Leo. Last reply by Leo Oct 20, 2010. 3 Replies 0 Likes

We have had our rough times and had some good times. We have three of the biggest blessings God can betstow on us, three beautiful boys. We got married young but decided we'd tackle life together and…Continue

Need your prayers. I'm just so angry.

Started by Leo. Last reply by Soldier Oct 4, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes

Yesterday, I had to take my boys back to their moms and I won't get to see them for like 5 or 6 months. I am not an angry person but this has just done it to me. I am so angry at my wife for doing…Continue

Help when you experience loss

Started by Gayla. Last reply by marcoe corpuz Sep 28, 2010. 4 Replies 0 Likes

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Newly Divorced

Started by Teresa. Last reply by Soldier Aug 23, 2010. 2 Replies 0 Likes

I'm newly divorced and it sucks. My husband wanted the divorce, said he wasnt happy, that I was mean to him and had a bad attitude. There were some other issues as well. We moved to Hawaii last…Continue

Dealing with loss and grief

Started by Pastor Bob B. Last reply by Pastor Bob B May 6, 2010. 16 Replies 0 Likes

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Comment by MARTIN PELFREY on April 18, 2011 at 1:26pm: i am still in need of your prayers. me and my wife are making some small breakthroughs (( i think)) . please pray for our reconciliation, I want to be in God's will and my wife also, by honoring the covenant of marriage. keep praying. thanks martin

Comment by Soldier on April 11, 2011 at 9:45pm: MRS April, Mr Martin, my time is short, sorry. James 4:8. HE is there.

Comment by April April on April 8, 2011 at 1:35pm: Martin that means a lot to know someone is praying for me and my marriage. I really do appreciate that so much!!!!

Comment by MARTIN PELFREY on April 8, 2011 at 12:46pm: thanks for your prayers. I put you on the top of the list. I hate your having trouble also. God says when they return to him, they will return to us. I will keep praying nonstop for our situations. thanks martin

Comment by April April on April 8, 2011 at 11:05am: @Martin

God is a God that makes what we think is impossible, possible. I am going through it with my husband right now and my prayer is that He gives us both a spirit of reconciliation and to soften our hearts. I am sure you are praying as well and God hears us all especially with our marriages. Stay strong and continue to lean on God during this time.

Comment by MARTIN PELFREY on April 8, 2011 at 11:00am: please everyone keep praying for the return of prodigal spouses. I haven't seen any good come of my situation, but i'm praying for my and others standers for the marriage reconciliation. thanks martin

Comment by Soldier on March 8, 2011 at 8:17am: MS Vicky, I havent been in here in a while. I reckon the Good Lord had me log in this morning just so I could see your note. Reason being, I will be filing my divorce next week with my local county. I was gonna do it with just myself but the legal mine fields just got too deep. Like you, I couldnt afford a lawyer. Well, when she revealed that she was pregnant with the other man's child, I knew that I needed the help. In Texas, legally, the child she is carrying is mine. Doesnt matter that I had a vasectomy 10 years ago.

Regardless, as I came here looking for the "fix all" answer as many do, God put me in a place to remind me that..."all I want you to do is focus on Me (God). Give me your burden, depression, worthlessness, all those other emoitons that come with a marriage that is ending due to the spouse going to another. If you let me take that burden, then I can begin to bless you with healing and the power to overcome". Now Ma'am, not implying the healing is over night. God says to that He will come and "comfort Himself". It doesnt say when. That's when our faith has to engage.

What I have done with my kids, is not engage their mom "over them". I simply allowed God to take control of my life and the kids (older teenagers) were, I'm assuming, to see who is at peace with all this and who is not. As God hates divorce, I know the path that He is placed me on, not to divorce as to "get rid of her and vengence for her ations, moreso that He can begin to prepare me for His blessings yet to come.

I pray you can find some comfort in this. I'll be praying for you.

Comment by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz on March 7, 2011 at 9:24am: I am preparing now to finalize the paperwork for the divorce. I was served and I have 2 weeks to respond. I have retained a lawyer and I think with that part I am okay. GOD has blessed me because initially I didn't think I could afford a lawyer but GOD worked it out and was able to retain lawyer after all. The problem I am having is the obvious stress of knowing that it will be over soon. We have been separated now 4 1/2 years and I knew because of his choice to keep a relationship with his girlfriend that our marriage was going to end. I am hurting now because it seems so unfair how unselfish he was when he walked out and didn't think about anyone else but himself. My kids are still struggling with all of this and his only concern seems to be: Why can't my girls accept his girlfriend? I will never understand how someone can be so selfish and only think of themselves. Please pray for me because it seems that the closer I get to the divorce the worst my emotions get and it is now starting to affect me in everything I do. I am trying really hard to keep it together but sometimes it seems to be way too much to handle.

Comment by Soldier on February 3, 2011 at 11:16am: Say Michael, how are things for you?

Comment by Leo on December 19, 2010 at 7:07am: I'm lifting you up in prayer Michael. I would strongly encourage you to try to find something like divorce care to go to

http://www.divorcecare.org/

I understand you want to reconcile with your wife even though she has a boyfriend. That's tough man. I was in a similar boat until my divorce was finalized. I put myself out there and I still continue to lift her up in prayer but she is in some other world. It takes one person to forgive but two to reconcile. Reconciling in itself can mean many different things the basic of which is just being able to talk to one another w/o biting each others heads off.

Soldiers friend spoke truth:

"you can choose to seek the sinful comfort of the world or you can choose to follow God and let Him do His perfect work."

Here is a sermon that helped me out understand God's love in this time of anger and frustration.

http://sermons2.redeemer.com/sermons/prodigal-sons

I'm so thankful that God is faithful to forgive. My self-righteousness is something I've been struggling with and have to remind myself that in the eyes of God none are righteous. Keep me in prayer guys. Choose joy.

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