Is It Wrong To Feel Offended?

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Permalink Reply by Bible-Talk on October 16, 2011 at 5:47am

Great reply Nancy and another scripture that is really helpful for me is:

 

"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."

 

Ruby, in my opinion Nancy is right - let go and I would also suggest that it might be helpful to quietly make a polite comment to the pastor about how you were affected and ask the pastor for advice/help in overcoming that feeling. It's never too late - better late than never.

 

In Him,

Desmond

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Permalink Reply by Rita Cullimore on October 16, 2011 at 6:24am

Keep in mind, Ruby, that yours is a small church and everyone thinks that someone else told you about the event and in fact, no one told you. If you hold onto this offense, there will be another slight down the road and you might take offense at it as well, and soon you will have irreparable damage. For your own growth and well-being, ignore the oversight. Forgive them and keep in your mind that everyone needs to be told (in future) when it comes to a church wide event, to keep another from feeling the hurt that you felt. Forgiveness starts with you for those closest to you.

Blessings...

Rita

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Permalink Reply by JB on October 16, 2011 at 10:26am

Actually I don’t feel that any Christian has, or can find any justification for being offended at anything, especially after they have been studying the Word for any length of time. One of the first things we learn is LOVE, God so LOVED that He gave His only begotten son.

And when we read 1Cor.13.…. We see that none of these things should upset or bother a Christian, that is if we are walking in the Spirit.

This is from the Amplified Bible, and it will help us understand the love walk a little better.

It is virtually impossible for the sense ruled man or woman to live by these attributes of love.

But if a person would take these and commit them to memory, they will come to your mind when an occasion presents itself to get offended. The Holy Spirit will quicken you when it does.

Blessings Joe

Remember that God is Love

And because I walk in love and love lives in me

# 1 I endure long

# 2 I am patient and kind

# 3 I am never envious, nor do I boil over with jealousy

# 4 I am never boastful or vainglorious

# 5 I never display myself haughtily

# 6 I am not conceited, arrogant or inflated with pride

# 7 I am never rude or unmannerly

# 8 I never act unbecomingly

# 9 I never insist on my own rights or my own ways

# 10 I am never self seeking

# 11 I am never touchy, fretful or resentful

# 12 I take no account of an evil done to me

# 13 I pay no attention to a suffered wrong

# 14 I do not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness

# 15 I do rejoice when right and truth prevail

# 16 I bear up under anything and everything that comes

# 17 I am ever ready to believe the best of everyone

# 18 My hopes are fadeless under all circumstances

# 19 I endure everything without weakening

# 20 For the love in me never fails, never fades out becomes obsolete or comes to an end.

　

　

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Permalink Reply by JB on October 16, 2011 at 7:06pm

　

I’m sorry Nancy, it was not my intentions to put anyone down or to offend

Please accept my apologies,

I guess Nancy, I should have emphasized this sentence!

 

“especially after they have been studying the Word for any length of time.”

Because after you have grown a little more in the Word, those things will roll off you like water on a ducks back.

I know indeed it does take time to grow in the knowledge of the Lord, and as 2Cor.3:18 states, “But we all, with open faces beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image, from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”

And as you said ,”we don‘t get there over night”

And as it says in; Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Though “love” and “faith” is part of the fruit of the Spirit, they both seem to be the hardest for us to adapt to. Or to walk in.

Be blessed

Joe

 

　

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Permalink Reply by Charles Burwell on October 17, 2011 at 4:13pm

Dear Ruby

 

Being offended may not be justified but it is 'reality ' sometimes . I have become offended with people at time only to have the Lord show me a flaw in myself that I needed to ' surrender to Him.  Allow this to be a time of learning from and drawing closer to the Lord as you deal with this. 

 

As Rita has brought out , maybe everyone assumed that someone else told you.  Also as was suggested , get this one taken care of before it becaomes easier to be offended the next time. Please don't think of that as a rebuke but , simply as advised from someone who has been there .

 

God bless you as you seek to get closer to Him.

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Permalink Reply by Ruby Adams on October 17, 2011 at 10:10pm

Thank you everyone for the replies, and all is well within our church. It was just a HUGE miscommunication! I guess I was a little more hurt from not being "accepted" than actually offended. I want to be able to fellowship with geniune people that actually care about the congregation. I thank you all for your advice because it helped me A LOT! God Bless you all!

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