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Broken down marriage

Well what happened was about 10 days ago i came home and my wife was not in the house and she text me to say that she wanted to seperate and then stayed at a friends for two nights and came and got clothes from the house and returned the keys while i was at work and then she got the train to somewhere new where she only knows one person who is old enought to be her dad, im 22 and she is 22. we got married in Dec so just a few months back.

She says she doesnt Love me the same no more and wanted away without everyone about, She has no job yet and says she wont be back. i dont know what to think.

 

We still talk by phone and by txt most days.

 

I keep preying for her to come back after time away and and to work through things.

 

What else can i do etc? i tell her we can change things but she always says shes not coming back.

 

I hope someone and god can help with her knowing whats shes missing and will return,

 

I am new to this.

 

Thanks you guys it really does mean a lot.

 

 

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Permalink Reply by Paul Stuart Bonnyman on May 1, 2011 at 11:30am

Thank you, She first mentioned getting divorced, but then said to a friend who i talked to that she doesnt want a divorce that she can think of.

 

She is on this site and this is how i have heard about this site as she found it. She has anxiaty and panic attacks and came on here for help. She sais since her move she has not had much problems from with panic etc. Theres a part of me that once she sees that she misses me and does really love me deep down then she may return but then i also wonder if she will be able to work it out, She goes out etc but if she thinks i have been she gets mad by text this is why i think she maybe still has feelings. As far as im aware she will has her engagement ring and wedding ring there just not on her wedding finger.

 

I prey in bed and say a few words to god and hope that she will return after some time again.

 

 

Permalink Reply by Paul Stuart Bonnyman on May 1, 2011 at 11:37am

In the past before meeting my wife i had never really connected with god, however when we got together i lost my job not long after and so did she and we got more work with less money and times were tough but we both believed that without the help of god we wouldnt have got through this and i believe that he can help with this and he has helped us through tough times.

 

I hope this makes sense!

Permalink Reply by Paul Stuart Bonnyman on May 1, 2011 at 12:34pm

Thank you, this makes a lot of sense after reading after it.

 

Is it silly of me to prey for my wifes return when go to bed at night?

Permalink Reply by Paul Stuart Bonnyman on May 1, 2011 at 12:40pm

Thank you. I asked that because in the past i didnt prey to him and wish i could turn back time to get help from him,

I hope that he will help me and my wife and that she will return :-)

Permalink Reply by Paul Stuart Bonnyman on May 3, 2011 at 1:08pm

I got a txt from my wife today to say that she was now seeing the guy she is staying with. It hurt me a lot and im really cut up about it. I was convinced that she was going to come back. a Friend has said that she maybe needs to reliese what shes missed and then she may come back.

 

I am hoping that this is the case. I pray at most times is this ok? or is there such a thing as over praying about the same thing to god? I feel like im connecting with him?

 

Thanks

Permalink Reply by Paul Stuart Bonnyman on May 3, 2011 at 2:20pm

Sorry what do you mean when you say that "do cast your burden on the Lord and trust in Him" slightly confused!

 

Thanks :-)

Permalink Reply by Lara Pantin on July 11, 2011 at 4:18pm

It's tough and I believe only God can work on the areas in both your lives to renew your love and marriage.  Keep holding on to Him and watch and see how he directs you.  keep in touch.

Permalink Reply by John Rogers on July 11, 2011 at 8:42pm

Right now you’re confused and afraid. The first thing that you should realize is that the very worst thing that can happen is that she won't ever be coming back. But what if that does happen? Would it really be the end of the world? Wouldn’t you rather know now the kind of person you married instead of 30 years later? At least now you have a chance at a full life with someone else. But imagine how it would be when your 60 and find this out. You were ok before you got married right? So you will be ok again. ------ If God is a loving God (which he is) then maybe he knows something about this woman that you don't. If you pray and be patient with God then God will either show you why she left, or he will bring her back to you. Pray that God will work on her heart and reveal to you what you should do next. She may be running from God herself. You don't know and neither do I. But I know this. God will show you what to do. Even if she never comes back, if you remain calm and trust God and be patient and walk in his ways then God will have something better for you. That is a fact my friend.

 

If you are seeking God for help, then he will help!

 

 I will pray for Gods best for you.

Permalink Reply by Penny Toman on October 9, 2011 at 8:42am
Oh dear is it something in the air or is Satan working full blast knowing his time is short.....I have been married for 38 years and now it seems we are splittting apart. All over a 29 year old "friend" of his that ends telephone conversations by saying "I love you" knowing full well Im within hearing distance. This friend calls at 4-4:30 am and Im expected to roll over smile and go back to sleep. Am I wrong to feel threatened? My heart breaks a little more every time he mentions her name....He has been "unfaithful" before, 9 years ago, and I forgave him. But now???? How many times do I have to turn the other cheek? I know I know God will answer my prayers someday so should I practice patience? Don't know if I can....what say you? 
Permalink Reply by Bible Sword Words on December 2, 2011 at 5:09pm

Penny,

      I truly feel pained when I read this, but I have no idea what to tell you. So, I would suggest you get church counseling, perhaps in a church where no one knows you. I think that many religious counselors are fine, but much honest prayer & honest listening to God are also called for here. Sometimes we are called to suffer & we should do it with dignity & thanksgiving to God. When you thank God you may realize some benefit from the marriage or how things could be worse. Maybe you are not the type that can stand up for herself without making matters much worse, so only a counselor that gets to know you can answer a question like that. God bless you. Remember this is not the peaceful millennium of Jesus Christ yet. Don't expect heaven on earth yet. Last piece of wisdom, before you know it you'll be dead & risen in spirit into Heaven. Will you have a happy Jesus-filled mind in spite of trials or give into the despair Satan is pushing into your thought life? I believe you'll choose heavenly thoughts.

Permalink Reply by Penny Toman on December 3, 2011 at 10:48am

Thank you for the words of encouragement. The Lord in his infinite wisdom and love has given me the strength to get thru this. I know he will not give me more than I can endure. He is with me and together we will get thru this. I would normally blow up and start horrendus battles with this man I call husband but God has given me guidance thru His word and now I just ignore every hurtful word and actions this "husband" gives me. I know with the Lords strength I can endure this mans stupidity. Thank you once again for your words and may God bless and keep you in His loving care.

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