If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1 Corinthians 71 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
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This being a very controversial subject I probably will not be talking much about it. Just a couple of things concerning the scriptures used in Matthew 19:6 (KJV)
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
I think most of us will overlook portions of the verse that says, “What therefore God hath joined together” All marriages are not ordained of God, as Seek pointed out. This is one of the problems we will encounter when we have the concept of God that He micromanages our lives, in other words, everything that happens to us, God allows it, or caused it to bring about His will. He will and can use anything that happens to us to bring glory to His name, or His will; that is to turn it around for His glory. So from that perspective we will say things like, why did God allow that to happen to me? Or we will suffer hardship thinking that, it must be God’s will, or it wouldn’t have happened. Charles Stanly said one time, “every time he gets down or gets sick, he will just lay back and say okay Lord what are you trying to tell me?” I don’t see it that way, because people will get sick from things they eat, or do, but it wasn’t God that did it. They married for various reasons, but does not mean that God put that marriage together. People has a free will do eat or not to eat, but according to Ro.14, we don’t judge them.
We are all going to sin in some way or another, but the Word tells me that He is not imputing our trespasses against us. So He is not categorizing sin, if we break one of the Ten, we are guilty of them all. This is also where some will think there are contradictions in the Word, they will read this verse and then turn to Rom.14, that says there is nothing unclean of itself, but if we esteem anything to be unclean, then to him it is unclean…The whole of Rom.14, I believe will help us understand this better. So I am not going to judge anyone on this: that will be the work of the Holy Spirit to lead us into all truth, not my intellectual understanding of it. That is why I said that religion will surely show up sooner or later.
JB
There are differences between God's eternal law, ceremonial law and Israel's national law. Two are not related to the child of God bought by the blood of Jesus and born of the Spirit. God's eternal law will always stand, and yet we understand that the punishment due us has been taken from us and placed on Jesus who paid our debt thereby redeeming us.
It is true that we are saved by grace and this great salvation is maintained by grace, but once we are saved we are still called to holiness. There is a right way to live and a right reason to live that way. We desire to obey God, seek after holiness because we love Him and agree with Him as to how detestable sin is in the sight of holiness. We have no right to pick and choose. We have no right to seek to rationalize why something is OK. It is incumbent on us to seek out what God really means regarding an issue.
The Word of God states clearly that "God hates divorce." There are no qualifiers in that statement and thus we must understand He hates ALL DIVORCE. We recognize that God has made provisions for divorce, but that does not change the fact that He hates divorce. The next problem that always arises from divorce is remarriage when is a separate issue altogether, but I will not go there today.
What is the right answer to your specific question? The answer must be sought setting emotions aside seeking where God stands on the issue, but you will find most people operate from emotions.
Regarding your last paragraph, Jesus was speaking to the religious leaders of the day prior to His death and resurrection. The ceremonial, national and eternal laws of God still applied to them. That is not the case for us today.
First of all I would say that it is not a salvation issue. The strike, you mention, is not being weighed (if at all) as a salvation strike. Yet, in life there are consequences for our actions, both goo and bad.
We cannot help what the outside world is going to think about Jesus or the Father. What we are responsible for is whether or not we are seeking to live in alignment with Him and His Word.
Now we can ask some unpopular questions.
What does the totality of the Word say on divorce? Does it give specific guidelines regarding divorce and eventually remarriage? Does an abusive spouse qualify in Scripture as grounds for divorce (talking divorce and not including separation here)? Did Jesus overlook this or was there no spousal abuse back then? To the last question the answer has to be no in both cases.
Thus, can a person separate from there spouse for safety reasons. Does this allow them to divorce them? If allowed to divorce is this grounds for remarriage. Remove any emotions or preconceived ideas ... what light does Scripture shed on this?
I do not see this as grounds for divorce, though would advocate separation. The Scripture that says about your unbelieving spouse wanting you to stay is applicable here as abuse signifies just the opposite. You do not abuse something that you want. Thus they would be free to separate. I do not see this as grounds for remarriage as I believe Scripture is very strict on this (and very unpopular today). I will not perform a service that includes remarriage unless adultery on the part of the other spouse has occurred (and this can come even in the form of that person having remarried).
Lord Bless,
LT
Adultery then poses questions. You can know they have committed it yet you don't have some photographic evidence, or they weren't caught in the act.
Highly unlikely they are going to play this out as incognito, but if in doubt you pause for the time being. Caution is better than rash decisions.
Jesus did make a distinction too in saying if you lust you've committed it in your heart.
First it is obvious that Jesus is talking illustratively as we see in the next verse that if our hand causes us to sin we are to cut it off. He does not literally mean to chop off the hand. The sin we commit in the flesh finds its origin in the mind. One does not have sex without first accenting to this mentally. Jesus went on in that passage to acknowledge that the cause for divorce is marital unfaithfulness. Here He is speaking direct and not using illustration. This distinction is physical and not just illustrative. Divorce is an actual event and the qualifier is adultery.
Even you said that you wouldn't perform a remarriage without adultery and that includes if the other remarries.
Either I misstated, or misunderstand your comment or you misunderstood me. If a person divorces their spouse and remarry when the spouse being divorced is not guilty of adultery they then by remarrying are guilty of adultery … not popular today, but without attempting to rationalize and inject emotions we cannot escape that conclusion from Scripture.
But what if they just live together? What if they claim nothing is happening that they just needed a place to stay?
Let me understand what you are saying. You are saying a person leaves their spouse and moves in with another person of the opposite sex and they proclaim, after the one left their spouse, that they are living together and nothing is happening … Hmmm, yeah, right, hmmm, I don’t think that passes the smell test.
Which all of this goes even further than the remarriage issue. Why do we choose to uphold only certain of God's commands? We uphold they don't divorce yet don't uphold the command to love one another in that we know that person may now need assistance that the church won't provide.
Ok, Shame on the church that will not help the one who is part of their fold. This does not change the command, but only illustrates a failure on the part of some unnamed church. Pointing out a failure to do what is right does not make that which is wrong now right.
They're trying to deal with children and finances possibly, because another did wrong and put them in danger and now the church does wrong in knowing the hardship and struggle but does nothing to help. It's a vicious cycle isn't it?
Not a cycle, but a sin. The church must step up and act like the church, bride of Christ.
I try to view the totality of the Word period and not just on divorce. That we should be merciful as God is merciful.
God is merciful and sinners are still destined to hell. What about His mercy leads us to assume He overlooks sin or ignores His own directives?
Extend love as God loved us. And we fail in that when we try to uphold aspects of God's commands while disregarding His character in the form of Christ.
Expected failure is not an excuse for failure. God calls us to holiness, that is His call to us and that is not overshadowed by our failure.
We say you must not divorce even if you know the person is an adulterer because you can't prove it.
Who says that and if by proof, what proof are we talking about?
Go ahead and protect yourself but do not divorce and know that if you need help in this time of need that you can always call on someone else cause I'm not gonna help you.
Again, pointing out the failure of the church does not absolve the individual of acting in alignment with God’s Word.
This is not a popular teaching, but we are not called to win popularity votes. I know some who shy away from this because many would leave their church … really? If it is truth it must be shared whether well received or not. If one has already failed at this there is forgiveness available and if one is pondering this they need to know what the Word has to say on the issue.
Lord Bless,
LT
Part III: If a Person Has an Unscriptural Remarriage, What Must He Do to Become a Christian? Some people believe that, if a person has divorced (not for fornication) and remarried, when he becomes a Christian, he may remain with his present companion. What does the Bible say?
I. The Bible Teaching Requires Such a Person to Leave His/Her Unscriptural Companion.
This is true regardless of whether the relationship was entered before or after baptism.
A. God Continues to Hold Such People Obligated to Honor the Commitment of Their Previous Marriage Covenant. It Follows that Every Sexual Union in the Present Marriage Is Adultery.
It follows that the only way such a person can be a faithful Christian is to give up the husband-wife relationship, including sexual relations, with their present companion.
The marriage covenant commits a person to his/her companion for life. Anytime our companion is alive, if we have a marriage relationship (including the sexual union) with someone else, we are guilty of adultery (even if we are remarried according to civil law). Note that the first marriage commitment continues as long as the first companion is alive, not just until baptism.
1 Corinthians 7:10,11,2-5 - A person should not divorce his/her companion. But what should one do if he is already divorced? Only two choices are available - remain unmarried or else be reconciled to our true companion.
What if we have already remarried - does that change the teaching? No, we still have only two choices if we are divorced, making no exception for the case in which one has remarried. If we can be reconciled with our lawful companion, fine. If not, we must remain unmarried. To stay with our unlawful companion would be fornication as shown in v2-5.
B. To Be Forgiven of Sin, a Person Must Repent. Then They Must Bring Forth Fruits of Repentance.
God is willing to forgive those who have unscripturally divorced and remarried. However, they must meet conditions of forgiveness, just as do others who are committing sin.
Repentance is a prerequisite for forgiveness of sins whether one is in or out of the church.
Matthew 21:28-32 - Repentance involves changing our minds and deciding to do God's will.
This is true regardless of what our sin may be. We must decide to quit stealing, lying, killing, etc. If we have been committing adultery in the form of an unscriptural marriage relationship, we must decide to quit the relationship, including quitting the sexual union.
Repentance requires us to follow through and change our sinful conduct.
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